Are YOU Giving the Most Love YOU Can Give – to YOU?
As we approach the most significant day of our lifetimes, 12/21/12, it is a time to reflect upon our life and decide if we are making the contribution we want to make. A precious friend of mine died, just a few weeks ago – right before Thanksgiving. We sat together at college graduation with our futures looming bright in front of us. Her passing has spurred me on to an even greater and stronger commitment to be my best, do my best and fearlessly give my love and share my accumulated wisdom with others.
And just this morning I received a letter addressed to me, in a familiar handwriting, my handwriting, written to me from me a year ago at a Women’s Prosperity Network event. I wrote such loving and uplifting words to myself and it felt wonderful to know that somebody thought that highly of me. Doesn’t matter at all that that person was me. Do yourself a favor and write a letter to YOU, seal it, and don’t open it until next year in December.
- Are YOU being the best YOU that you know you can be?
- Are YOU giving the most LOVE you know you can give?
- Are YOU giving the most LOVE you can give TO YOU?
- Are YOU willing to feel your fears and insecurities and just do it anyway?
- Are YOU ready to think and become greater than your grandest vision of yourself?
And just this morning I received a letter addressed to me, in a familiar handwriting, my handwriting, written to me from me a year ago at a Women’s Prosperity Network event. I wrote such loving and uplifting words to myself and it felt wonderful to know that somebody thought that highly of me. Doesn’t matter at all that that person was me.
Do yourself a favor. Write a loving, appreciative, complimentary recommendation letter to YOU. Seal it. Don’t open it until next year on 12/21/13.
Watch this inspirational video to finish 2012 with a resounding YES to all the questions above. YOU and I and EVERYONE WE MEET have the potential to change lives and to change the world. It begins with a vision, trusting that it is possible, seeing the results of small actions, and continuing to take more and more small actions.
Make this coming year, 2013, the year you can truly say
I DID IT!
Create Healing and Love in YOUR Life NOW!
What Are YOU Waiting For?
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
December 14th, 2012 at 8:35 pm
Hi Dr.Erica,
your suggestions are very powerful.
Writing ourselves a letter can mean that we write the things we most need to hear since we know ourselves.
I write a letter to my Inner Being every morning which also includes a letter to my inner child, usually the reframed version of what I have been processing.
I believe we are always doing our best with what we know at the time.
Thank you so much for your inspirational words.
Love and Light
Yorinda
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December 15th, 2012 at 12:56 am
Yorinda,
You are doing some pretty powerful daily processes to keep yourself in an uplifted and confident state of mind. The letter I received, I had written a year ago. That was really wonderful to read my own words as if they had been written to me by somebody else. I did not even remember having written those words but the handwriting was unmistakably mine.
Warmly,
Erica
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December 15th, 2012 at 2:14 am
Hi Erica, I have been giving a lot of thought to my contribution lately….and the fears that are holding me back. Your post is one of several reminders I have received with this message within the last couple of weeks.
With 12/21/12 approaching its definitely a time to recommit and go for it. Thanks for being one more reminder. Also love that video…what a great reminder about creating prosperity from whatever we have and are at the moment.
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December 15th, 2012 at 2:41 am
Hi Celeste,
Each of us has our own unique gifts and skills to contribute. Often, when we naturally do something well, we tend to think that everyone else can do that too – but they can’t. Everyone has different abilities and skills. That is why we really can make a huge contribution by offering our own unique knowledge to others.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 16th, 2012 at 8:53 am
Dr. Erica -
We are all going to be fine. This has been blown so out of proportion. I love that you wrote the letter, and will do so again this year. There is something powerful about getting those words down on paper. It makes it real, and it seems like it had an impact on you.
Steve
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December 16th, 2012 at 9:11 pm
Steven,
I like your reassurance that we will all be okay. Life is filled with tragedies, lots of pain and sorrow in daily living. We need to focus on all that is beautiful and good and enjoy it while we can.
Loving yourself, and showing that to yourself every day, is an essential part of living a good life now.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 16th, 2012 at 10:58 am
Thank you for this really thought provoking post. I’m not sure about the letter, but a diary update – would that have the same effect?
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December 16th, 2012 at 9:13 pm
Sarah,
It’s great to put it in a diary – if you look at it again a year from now. That’s the main point of it, to write a loving letter to yourself today, and not look at it again for an entire year. It’s really great when it arrives in the mail as a letter, but the letter I received was sent by one of the Womens’ Prosperity Network sisters. They mailed to me the letter I had written last year.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 16th, 2012 at 4:37 pm
Hi Dr. Erica,
I am going to take your suggestion and write a letter to myself. I’ve done it once before but it was a goal setting letter. I remember getting it in the mail in my own handwriting. It was strange because it took a minute to realize I had written it! I will do it again, using your love theme. I am reaching my goals for many areas in my life, but love is one I need to work on!
The video was incredible! I’m still in awe. I have a friend who is a young musician and I had to share it with her!
Humans are amazing because even in such dire conditions, your video showed that internally we have a “creative and innovative” instincts. Those incredible kids proved, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Inspirational story! Have a prosperous 2013!
Raena Lynn
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December 16th, 2012 at 9:16 pm
Raena,
I am so happy to know you and to be able to share with you through blogs and I love our shared Rainbow Pinterest board.
That’s exciting to me that you plan to write that letter to you.
I have just created a Relationship Healing Masterming Google+ group to share our inspirations on how to heal through love.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 18th, 2012 at 2:08 am
Hi Dr.Erica,
Your post is definitely thought provoking.I feel like we should always be striving to give more and become better people.One of my biggest resolutions in the new year is to become a better father and husband.Taking action on these questions will help me to do not only that but also help me to learn to love everyone else more as well.
The video was amazing.I myself can definitely learn a lesson from these children.It was inspiring and truly a story worth sharing.Thank you so much.
Jamie Bishop
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December 19th, 2012 at 5:25 am
Jamie,
I applaud you for making this New Year resolution. Life is short and unpredictable. My friend recently passed away and her husband shared with me that he felt guilty for not telling her that he loved her and how special she was. I reassured him that of course she knew that he loved her.
But don’t take that for granted. Show your family in words and actions just how much they mean to you. Tell them now! Don’t wait for some future time that may not come.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 18th, 2012 at 3:24 am
Thanks for your suggestion. Dr. Erica.
A good idea to get value in yourself. I think writing good things about yourself will only help you to become better to help others.
Thanks for the video. i really appreciate it. Was very easy to understand i am from Peru.
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December 19th, 2012 at 5:26 am
Jose,
I didn’t know you are from Peru. What a spiritual place that is. The more we say good things to our self, the more we have to share with others.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 19th, 2012 at 6:33 am
It’s important to keep in touch with ourselves on a regular basis. Writing to yourself, as you suggest Dr. Erica, is certainly a great way to do that.
Putting love into the world begins from the inside out. Being reminded of why we love ourselves inspires us to share that love with others.
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December 20th, 2012 at 12:15 am
David,
Unless we consistently acknowledge ourselves for who we are and what we have to offer, how can we appreciate others?
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 19th, 2012 at 7:41 pm
What an amazing video Erica – I just love stories like this about everyday heroes! The creativity shown here is so inspiring. Thanks for sharing this uplifting story.
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December 20th, 2012 at 12:13 am
Marty,
I find that when we get involved in a project, life feels much better. It takes our mind away from the difficulties. And the people in that video have become musicians with a potential future that will bring them out of their dire circumstances.
Warmly,
Erica
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December 19th, 2012 at 10:45 pm
Dr. Erica, I love your idea of writing a letter to ourselves and mailing it to ourselves in a year. It’s a great way to affirm the goals I’m setting for myself in 2013. As for the video, all I can say is, WOW! It was such a powerful example of a man who used his gifts, abilities, and passion for music to transform whole communities. He and all those orchestra members, as well as the man making the instruments inspired me to no end!
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December 20th, 2012 at 12:14 am
Steve,
Each of us has abilities and the potential to make a huge difference in the lives of others. Even if we influence ONE life, that is huge.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 20th, 2012 at 12:37 am
Hi Erica,
I LOVED the video! How inspiring to make musical instruments out of found tin, metal, etc. I am going to take you up on your idea of writing myself a letter to me. I have lots to say and hope for in the coming year. So thank you for the wonderful idea… Happy Holidays to you my friend!
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December 20th, 2012 at 5:07 am
Lesly,
It feels so good to read those words a year later. You forget that you wrote them and it feels as if they are coming from somebody else.
Warmly,
Erica
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December 20th, 2012 at 10:34 am
Erica, that’s a wonderful idea to write a letter to myself!
Doesn’t that cello sound great, that came from all different bits and pieces? Music does reach people’s souls, I love listening to music all the time, usually music without singing if I need to concentrate, and music with words when I’m doing something that doesn’t need concentration.
Thanks so much for your wonderful post Erica! Merry Christmas to you!
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December 20th, 2012 at 6:03 pm
Julieanne,
I do love the music. It is one of the quickest ways to get out of negative thinking or just too much thinking and to become centered and calm.
Warmly,
Erica
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December 20th, 2012 at 5:13 pm
I love the idea of writing a letter to yourself Dr. Erica. I never really thought of doing something like that. What a great idea! I am going to work on that today. I feel inspired just from that idea alone and feel kind of free too.
Thank you so much for reminding us of the small things we can do for ourselves. Merry Christmas!
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December 20th, 2012 at 6:04 pm
Michael,
I’m excited to know that you are writing a loving letter to yourself. Next year when you read it, you will feel loved.
Warmly,
Erica
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December 21st, 2012 at 8:01 pm
OK, I did it. Since I happen to use Send Out Cards, I decided to use that because I can address it to myself and set a mailing date. I am curious to know how it will affect me so I decided not to wait til one year. I wrote it to be mailed in six months. It seems a little corny. But, OK, a little humor at random can’t hurt any!
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December 22nd, 2012 at 4:30 am
Richard,
I love that you did it. That makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside. It feel so good to read uplifting, loving words about yourself. That’s cool to use send out cards for that.
Warmly,
Erica
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December 22nd, 2012 at 3:59 am
Hi Dr. Erica,
I really like your idea to write a letter to myself. I think that this is a fantastic idea and I will be doing this over the weekend. Thanks for sharing the inspiring video and for reminding me of the importance of cherishing and loving yourself completely.
Best,
Shelley
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December 22nd, 2012 at 4:26 am
Shelley,
In the end, the one person we can trust the most is our own self. We really do need to show to ourselves the kind of love we want to receive from others – and then others seem to magically do the same.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 23rd, 2012 at 12:43 am
Dr. Erica your questions are definitely thought provoking. Ten years ago I probably would have answered no to the majority. I went through a very bad divorce in 2002 and afterwards the time I took to learn about how to love myself was amazing there was like one aha moment after another and the light bulbs just kept turning on. I so much fun learning about myself and it prepared me to chose better in relationships of all kinds, be a better contributor to a relationship and I am now remarried for ten years the journey is the best.
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December 23rd, 2012 at 4:40 am
Lydia,
Your story is wonderful. It shows the power of taking action, moving forward and focusing on self awareness and self-growth. Have a wonderful and joyous holiday.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 23rd, 2012 at 4:16 am
Writing yourself a letter is powerful! Partly because it reminds you of your deepest longings and your vision, but also because it’s more objective than thinking about things and going round and round trying to find answers. I discovered many years ago that it was easy for me to help a friend find solutions to problems than to find answers for myself. Then I discovered I was able to help myself if I took a step back and pretended this was someone else appealing to me for help. If that makes any sense…
Willena
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December 23rd, 2012 at 4:42 am
Willena,
We really do have all the answers within our own self. Sometimes we need others to help shed light on our own thinking. But we cannot operate based upon the points of view, suggestions or actions of others. We really do have to determine our own lives, every step of the way.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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December 23rd, 2012 at 9:13 pm
So lately, my boy-friend and I have been struggling with lots. When I state a lot I imply like everyday. And today we’re ‘on a break’. We have been off and on for more than a year. And I appreciate him with ALL MY DEEP HEART. but he just is not precisely the same. He’s been a snazzy jerk these days. Like he would not provide me a cuddle, kiss me, hold my hand, and even look at me at school (he’s afraid he’s going to obtain in difficulty.) but he nevertheless says that he loves me. But he is not the exact same sweet guy he was when we began going on a date, he is not the man which I fell in real love with. I do not understand what to do anymore becasue I love him so a lot! I fell in love with him at first sight November Last year and living devoid of him does not work. I’m busted with out him and it truly is so difficult to reside without him. But how do I know if he feels the same manner in which I really feel? How do I get him to admit for it? He informed me he lvoes me more then anything…except a singer..thats someone.. I have to have guidance and I never want any, “you’re too young to know what enjoy is” or “you’re to young to date” due to the fact I understand what adore is. And I’m extra mature then anyone in my quality. I don’t program to possess sex till I am married. so please, I just want significant advice that could be in a position to enable me.
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December 24th, 2012 at 1:08 am
Luana,
There is no way for me to provide a simple solution to your current confused state. The best thing you can do, if possible, is to contact a counselor or therapist for a few sessions in which you can share your story about your relationship. It is also important to understand your family, your background, your beliefs about relationships, and your confidence in yourself. The next thing you can do is to find a few good books about relationships, what works, what doesn’t work, what types of problems are about you and which ones are about the other person. It is important for you to know what you will accept and what you won’t accept. And if there is something you are not willing to accept, then you need to make the decision to leave – which can be very difficult – and that is why it will help if you seek support through counseling or coaching.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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