Beware What You Wish For – You Might Get It!
Are you currently visualizing your dream, hoping to find the partner or create the business you are imagining? Have you thought about what your life will be like if you actually do attain what you believe you want?
Most of us dream and think: If only … then …. Often the unspoken assumption is “If I attain this … then I won’t have to worry about money, about competition, about working hard, about being lonely….” However, once we do attain our dream, if we do, we may find that we actually become more concerned about money and how to handle it, more aware of the competition, actually working longer and harder, and being alone even more often.
Please watch my video and let me know what you think. Post a comment or share this with your friends.
Beware What You Wish For – You Might Get It!
Warmly,
Dr. Erica Goodstone
September 6th, 2010 at 3:50 pm
Hi Erica,
You’re video is a reminder to me of what I always talk about. Work harder on yourself than any other thing. If you are feeling uncomfortable in any area of your life then you must work on that first. You are correct, obtaining that dream will not resolve that issue. Only you can do that. It can not be resolved by any outside influences such as more money and etc.
Michael
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Dr. Erica Goodstone Reply:
September 6th, 2010 at 4:19 pm
Michael,
True that outside influences will not resolve the problem, but others can offer the support you need to go for your dreams.
And money can help to pay for the resources to help you along the way. But with or without money or outside help, we can always go within and discover unimaginable riches.
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September 7th, 2010 at 3:38 pm
Hi Erica,
What really struck me while I was viewing your video was this: when the reality of our dreams doesn’t match the imagery in our minds, we struggle with the results or beat ourselves up or worse just quit dreaming altogether. When what we should be doing is finding a way to bridge that gap. That’s an awesome thought! Thanks for sharing.
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Dr. Erica Goodstone Reply:
September 8th, 2010 at 2:32 am
Great insight Deborah. Just as an airplane is continually off course and returning toward its desired direction, we need to do the same. We dream, we pay attention to our current reality, we dream again, we check our reality, and we dream again – continual adjusting toward our goals.
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September 8th, 2010 at 3:13 am
Great post Dr., I know my goals have changed many times as my life has changed. When I first sat down and made my list of goals and my why it was 99% revolving around money and success. I soon realized that was not really what I wanted and needed. So adjustments have been made many times.
As I reach milestones in my business I find myself adjust my goals more towards helping others, giving back, teaching and mentoring, and time freedom, this one being the biggest.
If you are too busy to enjoy your success did you really succeed?
Thanks for sharing!
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 9th, 2010 at 3:52 am
Interesting how goals tend to shift from money and succes toward helping and mentoring and giving back. I love your question, “If you are too busy to enjoy your success did you really succeed.”
This is so true once you have accomplished your goal or achieved your dream. But along the way, there are periods of time that hard work, keeping you busy a great deal of the time, is what it takes to succeed. I think of the great tennis players (tennis is my love). They are not spending time hanging out with friends. They are practicing, perfecting and improving their tennis skills every day – and eating foods to keep their energy high, and exercising to keep strong and supple, etc. They are busy with a purpose.
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September 9th, 2010 at 1:19 am
Erica,
Great points to think about. I think one point to remember is that WE as individuals are never in any type of relationship by ourselves so we should not expect everything to be as we envision alone. Bridging the gap and by adjusting and examining our course. Like that!
Val
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 9th, 2010 at 3:45 am
Val,
So true. We are never in a relationshp alone, although many of us act as if we are, expecting the other person to just conform to our wishes. It is really more about giving and receiving, learning, listening, and being together.
Erica
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September 9th, 2010 at 6:05 am
Hi Erica,
It is really true that things can change and we find we have unresolved issues which make things work out differently than what we had in mind. Your new program sounds interesting.
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 9th, 2010 at 3:43 pm
Thanks Melodie. Unresolved issues, not examined, are the real killer of relationships.
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September 9th, 2010 at 2:07 pm
Erica,
What a great point you make…. the “if only” statements are so telling. When we catch ourselves thinking in terms of “if only” we should immediately stop and consider what we are really saying.
As you pointed out in your video, arriving at our destination often doesn’t change things they way we might have imagined!
To your continued success,
Robin
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 9th, 2010 at 3:44 pm
Robin,
Thanks for stopping by.
Arriving at our destination actually only reveals to us more about what has been lacking and what is still unresolved. It is an ongong peeling of the onion.
Warmly,
Erica
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September 10th, 2010 at 10:43 am
Dr. Erica, I love this. This makes me think of what my mother used to say this to me all the time when I was a kid growing up. We always wished it was Christmas, then we wished it was Saturday so we didn’t have to go to school, then we find ourselves wishing it was summer so we could go on vacation.
She used to tell us that we were wishing our lives away and it’s so true. This is a perfect example of living in the moment and not wishing it was some time in the future, because the future will come fast enough. It’s great to visualize what you want your life to look like when your future arrives, but don’t wish away the life that you have right in front of you right now.
Thanks for the insight. I think I took your post in a different direction, but this is just what it brought to mind for me. Thanks too for stirring up some great memories of my mom. It was a good way to start the day today!
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 11th, 2010 at 1:53 am
Debbie, Thanks for putting another slant on this. You can wish away your life and not be living in the moment. You can get what you wished for and it does not play out the way you imagined it. Even then, the solution is always to be living in the moment. Life is actually a series of moments and change is inevitable.
Warmly,
Erica
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September 10th, 2010 at 5:29 pm
This was a very interesting post. It’s pretty cool how the mind (dreams) can affect negatively or positively your life. I dream all day every day, and yet I have the same struggles as everyone else. I’ve always kept on open mind to any/all possibilities within reason. I enjoyed this post very much, and I am still motivated to keep dreaming and enjoying the journey of life.
Mike
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September 11th, 2010 at 1:56 am
Mike, Let me point out that everything that has ever been created began as a thought and a dream. Dreaming and visualizing is powerful. However, we also need to be flexible and in the present moment as our dream begins to unfold.
Warmly,
Erica
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September 11th, 2010 at 3:12 pm
Hi Dr. Goodstone,
Thank you for sharing, being prepared for your success is so crucial. As you have pointed out, once goals are obtained maintaining this level of success and moving to your next goal take a mindset and a commitment level that you must be prepared for both physically and mentally.
Kind regards,
Rafael
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 12th, 2010 at 3:16 am
Rafael,
So ture. Sometimes we reach a goal before we are really ready to deal with what’s involved once we get there. Or we imagine great things but are not really happy once we actually attain them.
Erica
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September 11th, 2010 at 4:59 pm
Erica,
Great video, look forward to more! Love your color choices and of course, your message! Can’t wait to hear more about your new program.
Adam
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September 12th, 2010 at 3:17 am
Adam,
Thanks for stopping by. I absolutely loved your new video about Loving Affirmations. Animals teach us so much about being in the present. So often we have big dreams for the future but miss out on what is right in front of us, here and now, in the present.
Erica
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September 12th, 2010 at 5:17 am
Mmm, very good point here Mrs. Goodstone. Sometimes when people achieve that level of success they have been dying to get to so hard, they realize that its all for nothing and they are just as miserable as they were when they were broke.
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 13th, 2010 at 3:16 am
Sometimes we seek prosperity because it is really important to us and then when we achieve it, we may finally be ready for a relationship – that we don’t have because of striving for the prosperity. Success helps us feel good, but usually not without love.
Erica
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September 12th, 2010 at 2:03 pm
Erica,
This will be a fantastic series. I will be looking forward to the rest of the videos. I am going to see a life ling friend this month who is having these exact issues because he never learned how to forgive his parents (not so good parents) and it is affecting his marriage now.
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September 13th, 2010 at 1:20 am
Hi Erica!
I absolutely agree…I try to take great care in the things I want, and to be sure of what I want, before I actually go for those things. This stands true to everything in my life…business, relationships, you name it. Of course, while I know that I learn from mistakes when I make them (if I’m pursuing something that’s not right for me) it’s so much better just to know what I want to begin with so I can save myself making the mistake. So I try to be wise in everything I do. The great thing is, if I’m pursuing something awesome, I also believe that God gives us the desires of our hearts when we are faithful. Love it!
Have a fabulous week,
Mandee
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 13th, 2010 at 3:18 am
Somtimes we have to begin pursuing our goals and along the way we discover that it is not quite what we want, and then we can adjust. Sometimes we have to actually attain the goal before realizing whether it is fulfilling or not. But connecting with a sense of God can keep us on the right track.
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September 13th, 2010 at 4:50 am
Hi Erica,
yes I have experienced the unresolved issues being mirrored back to me.
Now my focus is more getting clear what the essence is of what I wish for, rather than the details.
In regards to relationship the most important relationship we can have is the one with our Inner Being.
Thanks for your post and video.
Cheers,
Yorinda
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 13th, 2010 at 7:36 pm
Yorinda, I agree with you about focusing on the essence and not the details of our dreams and goals. The details somehow fill themselves in, sometimes differently from what we might have expected.
Erica
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September 13th, 2010 at 6:13 am
Hi Dr Goodstone,
Until I read the Law of Attraction I coasted through life …taking what I needed and never worring about giving back….
I call this my imature days…as I have changed and get so much more from helping people.
Having lots of money has never motivated me…thus my aimless wonder through life.
I am not sure if this has any relevance to your post…which I enjoyed and thought was excellent.
Cheers
Bryan
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 14th, 2010 at 1:39 am
Bryan, Thanks for sharing your thoughts. That aimless wandering through life is also valuable, at least for a period of time. But once we learn about the way the universe and the world really work, we can’t help but give back to others.
Warmly,
Erica
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September 14th, 2010 at 4:59 am
Hi Erica,
Excellent posting, I love the title. I agree with you, most of us dream and wish for things…once it is attained, many are not actually ready for it and can not handle it. You can dream and wish all day and it may still not turn out to be what you figured it would be.
Thanks again for an excellent posting, Erica.
~ Corneal Carter
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 18th, 2010 at 4:30 am
Corneal,
Keep dreaming anyway. Even if it doesn’t turn out the way we might have expected, it is usually closer to what we want than what we don’t want.
erica
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September 15th, 2010 at 12:53 am
Hi Erica
Your post always seem to make me sit back and really think and reflect. I’m a dreamer my mind is always dreaming and visualizing to the place that I feel the emotions. I don’t know if I think “If only” it’s more like, “I know” it will be manifested it’s just a matter of timing.
It’s faith!
Warm regards
Debby Beachy db
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 18th, 2010 at 4:31 am
If you “know” it will be, it surely will. Just keep taking the steps and allow it to unfold.
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September 16th, 2010 at 3:46 pm
in relationships we often focus on all the wonderful things about our new partner… then after a while, we tend to acknowledge the “habits” that were always there, but we weren’t as focused on in the beginning. it’s important to go back and recall why you were attracted to that person in the first place, and recognize that the good probably far outweighs the bad. but where you focus is where you go!
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
September 18th, 2010 at 4:33 am
In the beginning of a romantic relationship, our hormones are flowing and cloud our logical mind. As the hormonse subside and familiarity takes over, we begin to look at the person and see all the things that we don’t like. You are so right. We need to remember why we were attracted to that person origianlly and keep seeing what we like at the same time that we see some flaws.
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September 23rd, 2010 at 5:27 pm
I really believe the only way to find true happiness is to be happy now. Imagining some future event as our ‘bringer of happiness’ is often fraught with disappointment.
But having that dream and focusing on enjoying the journey is so much more rewarding, because I can be happy now.
Thanks for the great video. I enjoyed it. I little island of feel good in the middle of my day.
One Love,
Debbie Lattuga
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Dr. Erica Goodstone Reply:
September 23rd, 2010 at 11:00 pm
Debbie,
I have been enjoying so many of the online blogs and uplifting videos. We are in a small world of wonderful, positive spirited people. And with each others’ support, each of us can reach out and affect more of the people around us. I am so happy to be “a little island of feel good” in the middle of your day. Your comments do the same for me.
Warmly,
Erica
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