Can You GIVE the Love You Want to Receive?
Are You Prepared to Give the Love You Want to Receive NOW?
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How freely do you share your love with others? The time to share your love is NOW, no matter what is going on in your life. Did you know that what you give, what you supply to others, multiplies and eventually provides for you more than you could have imagined.
What You Supply You Multiply.
Every religion teaches us this principle. In the bible it is written: “Now he who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will also supply and increase your store of seed and will enlarge the harvest of your righteousness.” 2 Corinthians 9:10, New International Version (©1984)
Share with others from a state of abundance, even when your first inclination is to hold onto it for yourself. Did you know that whatever it is you currently want, if you can cause another person to have it, you will also get it?
- Do you desire love? Share your love abundantly, even when you feel you have none left to give.
- Do you need money? Give a portion of the money you already hsve, with love, to others.
- Do you crave affection? Be affectionate, offer a hug, be loving toward everyone you know.
- Do you want attention? Pay attention to others, listen, hear and respond to them with love.
“If I could speak in any language in heaven or on earth but didn’t love others, I would only be making meaningless noise like a loud gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I knew all the mysteries of the future and knew everything about everything, but didn’t love others, what good would I be? And if I had the gift of faith so that I could speak to a mountain and make it move, without love I would be no good to anybody. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would be of no value whatsoever.” 1 Corinthians 13:1-3
Exceed your own limited beliefs about what you currently are able to give. Share a portion of your money freely, even and especially when you seem to have very little. Share your love abundantly, even when you currently feel as if nobody cares about you. Impart your knowledge and wisdom, even the small amount you have currently acquired. Give more patience and tolerance to others than you feel you really have. And above all, share your love with everyone you encounter. See the divinity and the value of every soul you meet. Give your love freely and watch your life expand beyond your wildest expectations.
Remember to share your gifts abundantly NOW.
Please leave a comment about what is true for you about sharing your love abundantly.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
March 19th, 2012 at 6:33 am
It is very true. If we give, we will receive back, even if it is a little but, but willingly and earnestly giving. Nice quotes by the way.
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March 19th, 2012 at 7:20 pm
Thanks Jacob,
It is not a matter of giving and then feeling depleted. It is giving without expectation, knowing you are already receiving and already have plenty of what you are giving.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 19th, 2012 at 9:48 pm
This is so true Erica:) I recently read The go Giver by Bob Burg and John David Mann which basically is a very powerful book that plays on the secret to success is giving…
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March 20th, 2012 at 1:38 am
Lilach,
It is not just giving. It is giving in such a way that we empower others and help them to have what they want. The more we help others get what they want, we will naturally be able to get and have what we want. The giving begins with me – I keep discovering that.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 19th, 2012 at 10:28 pm
Great Bible verses. Jesus lived and died the example of how to live in the service of others. The two greatest commandments are Love the Lord and love others. Easier said than done in this fallen world we live in. But all the more reason this world NEEDS more love. And wouldn’t the world be a nicer place to live if there was more love for each other?
Tom
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March 19th, 2012 at 10:43 pm
Tom,
Many people, including parents and spouses, espouse love, say the words “I love you,” but they are often really focused on getting their own needs met. True love accepts, acknowledges and appreciates the other person without expectations. When we are treated that way, it is amazing how loving we naturally become.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 19th, 2012 at 11:11 pm
This is concept that can be seen as a basis of all true teachings, be it religious, Eastern, esoteric, Kabbalistic. In Kaballah for example there are two forces that govern our world. The will to bestow and the will to receive. A mother for example is a perfect example of the will to bestow. She gives to her child unconditionally. This type of love is the closest we can come to perfection. If we can do the same, then we too will come closer to the gates of perfection.
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March 20th, 2012 at 1:36 am
Stevie,
When we give without expectation and help others to feel valued, supported and cared for, without thought and effort, in due time we will receive what we want and need. What goes around comes around. On the other hand, when our modus operandi is to take, to always be focused on what we can get, we are actually limiting our own capacity to receive. When we are in the flow, everyone benefits.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 20th, 2012 at 2:58 am
Hi Dr. Erica,
Thanks so much for reminding us about sharing our love and personal gifts abundantly with others. When we share freely without expectation of what we will receive in return, we will be blessed abundantly with many wonderful gifts that bring much love, joy, and happiness into our lives.
Best,
Shelley
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March 20th, 2012 at 3:40 am
Shelley,
That is a huge lesson to learn and the true secret to living a successful life.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 20th, 2012 at 7:49 pm
What an inspirational post and message, Dr Erica.
By giving we receive by the mere pleasure of giving and sahring without attachment. This last part of having no expectiations presupposes inner freedom and abundance so in order to do it we tap into our infinite love resources and we are already healed.
This makes us feel united with everything and everyone and the emotions of being united is also the “healer”.
Thanks again for this share!
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March 20th, 2012 at 10:05 pm
Patricia,
Giving without expectation is a wonderful place to attain but it can take awhile. We need to receive validation and we also need to receive or have a sense of receiving whatever it is we want. That provides the energy and belief to trust that we will receive more of it. Gratitude comes in here. If we are grateful for whatever small amount we do have of what we desire, then we can attract more of it by sharing some of what we already have.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 20th, 2012 at 9:10 pm
Erica,
You are absolutely right! Whatever we put out into the universe, you will receive back in return. Sometimes a hundred fold! Everyone should get into the habit of displaying love to others more frequently. We live in a fast pace society and it’s easy to focus only on our own problems and concern. It take a big person to step outside of their selves in order to display love, kindness, and compassion to someone they do not know. Love your neighbor, be kind to strangers, do it often, and change a life today.
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March 21st, 2012 at 2:59 am
Anthony,
For many of us, it is easy to give and display love when things appear to be going well (good job, lots of affection and sexual connection, good home, lots of friends, abundant money, etc.). But what happens when lots of things appear to be going wrong (lose our job, shortage of money, loss of friends, loss of love, etc.). I am discovering that even and especially when we are feeling that there is a lack, that is the time to give and share our love even more. When we give something it is a message to our subconscious that we have enough to give – and then we are open to receiving more.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 21st, 2012 at 2:39 am
Hi Dr Erica, I enjoyed the bible quotes. Being Catholic, I have learned from a young age to follow the passages and teachings. I guess it was ingrained in my being from the very start that “giving is better than receiving” The best feeling in the world to me is when I give anonymously.
Once there was a kid in my neighborhood that went to school with my daughter. They were about 13 at the time and I noticed he wasn’t wearing a coat. When I asked my daughter why, she said he couldn’t afford one.
I asked her what was the hottest trend in boys coats and she told me. I went straight out and purchased it, wrapped it up with a tag that said Love Santa. Put it by his door, rang the bell and hid behind a car. He was the happiest kid ever!
My husband and I give anonymously every year instead of exchanging gifts between ourselves. We have everything we need, so we seek out someone or some organization and give a gift to them.
Leading a life of unconditional giving without expectations, just brings me a sense of self worth that I can contribute without anyone knowing I did.
Sorry for babbling, but it brought me back to that day.
Blessings,
Donna
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March 21st, 2012 at 2:54 am
Donna,
You are a living example of what many religious people pretend to be, in words, but not necessarily in their heart. Giving, just like praying, is wonderful when done quietly, without expectation of something in return. Thank you for sharing that personal side of your life.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 21st, 2012 at 3:30 pm
Right on, Dr. Erica! This is simply one of the most basic principles of life! What more can I say, except that when we do these things, we do them with absolutely no expectation of anything in return, all the while knowing, with gratitude, that what we give WILL be returned to us many times over. A powerful, beautifully written and much-needed article!
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March 21st, 2012 at 5:59 pm
Steve,
That principle of life applies everywhere, even with commenting on other people’s blogs and liking their pages. You give to lots of people and you will receive back, not always directly from those people you gave to.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 21st, 2012 at 5:38 pm
Excellent, Dr. Erica…sharing, unselfish love, giving to other first. The Golden Rule. The person we should emulate, Jesus, always gives love unconditionally to everyone. When you be a true “Go-Giver” to others, you will receive abundantly. Thanks.
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March 22nd, 2012 at 3:34 am
Martin,
That is a task that seems to be so difficult for many people. They want to see and know they are and will be receiving before they are willing to truly give. And it just doesn’t seem to work that way. When we learn to give freely, without expectation, our life becomes so much more fulfilling.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 22nd, 2012 at 3:36 pm
Hi Dr Eric
Thx A lot for this info. I love the law of giving it is sad if you look at people that say they are spiritual but do not understand the law about giving.I had a Example like that at work today.
Regards
Theuns
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March 22nd, 2012 at 8:17 pm
Hi Theuns,
Some people tend to think that giving happens only after you have created an overabundance of whatever you think you need. The truth is, giving is really about sharing whatever you currently have with a sense of abundance even when it does not appear that way in your current reality.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 22nd, 2012 at 5:14 pm
Inspiring message as always Dr. Erica … I’d just like to add that sharing love shouldn’t be reserved only for those select few in our immediate circle. Too often people are incredibly caring when it comes to family and friends, yet don’t invest the time it takes to share a simple smile with a stranger or someone in need.
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March 22nd, 2012 at 8:19 pm
Marquta,
You are describing a really common pattern of giving. People give to those closest to them from whom they expect to receive something. But if anyone is outside their immediate circle and does not seem to have something to offer, they can turn a cold shoulder. Giving has to become a pattern of life, with everyone, everywhere. And that is not necessarily an easy thing to do.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 25th, 2012 at 12:46 pm
Thank you again Dr. Eric. Giving is the key. Don’t wait and do it now. How often we forget in our busy lives. You blog is the greatest!
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March 25th, 2012 at 9:41 pm
Ann,
Thank you so much for your appreciative comment. You are giving just with words and that feels so good.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 27th, 2012 at 6:19 am
If only our politicians would learn to love a little more, how much better would the world be??
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March 28th, 2012 at 6:19 pm
Linda,
You are so right. Love spreads so if the leaders are sharing from a heart centered place, their followers learn by example to do the same. Statistics about leadership show that there is a normal curve. About 4% are innovators and leaders. Another small percent are first responders and leaders. The vast majority are followers. So if the leaders and first responders set a loving example, the rest will gradually follow.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 27th, 2012 at 6:50 am
Dear Erica,
You presented the right recipe of getting love from others.
I read your advices well:
Do you crave affection? Be affectionate, offer a hug, be loving toward everyone you know.
Do you want attention? Pay attention to others, listen, hear and respond to them with love.
And it gently touched my heart. Yes, if you want to be a peach you should present love at first. If you want to present your words, you should present your ear at first.
You should present to receive. I understood it now.
Thank you for this quit article.
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March 28th, 2012 at 6:21 pm
To Discover Your Treasure,
I love the words you just wrote: “If you want to present your words, you should present your ear at first.”
That touched me. If I want others to willingly listen to my “words of wisdom,” I begin by listening and responding and showing interest in their words of wisdom first.
Thanks for your insightful response.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 27th, 2012 at 1:53 pm
When I read your blog I am reminded of the term ‘quantum leap.’I guess here it would be ‘quantum giving!’
A quantum leap can be simply taking that extra step, gently pushing yourself a little more, giving more to that person or project and just being ‘more.’ It is quantum because it requires the choice-the awareness (it feels better to give in this situation.) Taking that extra step requires faith, it requires esteem, and love, yet it is so powerful- I think it is what dreams are made of!
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March 27th, 2012 at 1:54 pm
Thank you Erica
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March 28th, 2012 at 6:25 pm
Deborah,
I like your analogy to taking a quantum leap. For some of us it feels as if we are taking a huge step when we reach out to support someone else before we have received what we expect or desire from them. However, the way of the world is such that when we give first, without knowing but just trusting, all else will be given unto us – and in unexpected and delightful ways.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 28th, 2012 at 9:16 am
It makes me think also of the verse in Ecclesiastes 11:1 – “Cast your bread upon the waters, for after many days you will find it again.” Figuratively speaking, of course. Or, in a newer translation, the same verse says, “Send your grain across the seas, and in time, profits will flow back to you.”
Willena Flewelling
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March 28th, 2012 at 6:13 pm
Willena,
Thanks for sharing that bible quote. So often, when we “cast our bread upon the waters” it feels as if “nothing” is coming back.
In a relationship, we may feel as if we are giving love, giving support, showing that we care, and yet it seems as if nothing is coming back. Or in business, we may give and give and put ourself out there for others to receive, yet it appears that nothing is coming back to us in terms of income or profits.
However, when we give freely without expectation we are, in fact, planting and spreading our seeds. We do not know how and when and in which way the “profits” will return to us. This is where trust and faith are required.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 28th, 2012 at 9:25 pm
Hi Dr. Erica:
I am firm believer in reaping what we sow. For me this doesn’t always mean you will get back exactly what you sowed but there is always some sort of blessing in giving generously to others.
Thanks!
Kevin
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March 29th, 2012 at 2:34 am
Kevin,
I just keep finding that. Even when it looks as if I am receiving nothing back, suddenly I get something unexpectedly, often from a different source.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 29th, 2012 at 2:01 am
I think love should come without expectations… I have had relationships fail in my love life because the other person had unrealistic expectations. It is hard and sometimes frustrating, but it is also a learning experience.
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March 29th, 2012 at 2:37 am
Nile,
When we can get to point of loving another person just for being whoever they are, without demanding and expecting them to change something to meet our own needs, the relationship can become magical. All of us want to be loved and accepted. Nobody wants to have to change to please someone else.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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March 30th, 2012 at 8:30 pm
When it comes to love people seem to attract what they need at that moment. Whether they learn from the experience is a different story. I always have felt that one person needed to be a little different than the other person to achieve love in a relationship.
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March 31st, 2012 at 3:48 am
Joyce,
You make an important point. We attract what we need in the moment but it is out choice whether we actually learn and grow from the experience.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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April 11th, 2012 at 10:32 pm
Dr. Erica, thanks for the great reminder. I guess, ideally, we would have so much love, time, and energy to give, that we would not even have to think about giving while hoping for something in return. Brian Tracy talks about the Law of Indirect Returns, which states exactly what you talk about in this post. Thanks for the great reminder.
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April 11th, 2012 at 11:34 pm
Steve,
I am not familiar with Brian Tracy’s “Law of Indirect Returns” but it certainly makes sense. When we give, we WILL receive. But we may not receive what we are expecting and we may not receive from the person, people or direction we expected it to come from. Giving has an energy all its own. I know how good I feel when I give and know I am able to give, especially when I do not have an expectation about results.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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April 26th, 2012 at 4:21 pm
Thanks for writing this. I really needed to hear this right now. I think the benefit of having this attitude is that you make a habit of loving and living in gratitude instead of always trying to get something and ending up disappointed all the time.
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April 27th, 2012 at 6:28 pm
Kathryn,
I have discovered that when I give, I do not always receive back from the person I gave to. And even if they do eventually give back to me, it is often not at a time when I am expecting. The key is to give your love freely and willingly, without expectation of a return on investment. Without warning, the love WILL return and you will be surprised and delighted.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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