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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 30 – FLOW

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I have discovered, for myself, that taking on a challenge gets my psychic and physical energy flowing and aligned. In other words, it puts me into the FLOW.  After 30 days of writing blog posts daily, I want to leave you with the most important aspect of any activity in your life.  If you are operating within this system, everything else seems to fall into place.  When you are in the FLOW, life is beautiful, every moment is an adventure to cherish, and every person is a symbol of God’s love.

Young children naturally function within the FLOW of their everyday activities.  When they get involved in an activity, they are totally present until something distracts them and then they become totally involved in a new activity.  When we are in the FLOW, time moves slowly and we are not impatient.  When we are in the FLOW of love, we are happy to allow the love to build, we enjoy the nuances of our shared experience and we express all those other wonderful qualities I have been talking about for 29 days.  When we are in relationship FLOW, each of us feels accepted, understood, appreciated, acknowledged, trusted and desired.  There is no craving or longing for something outside the relationship because we are able to express our full self and feel all of our feelings.

You may have a strong INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and  COMMUNICATION. You PRACTICE relationships skills, you balance TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMY,  your SENSITIVITY. UNDERSTANDING, RECEPTIVITY, FORGIVENESS, ACCEPTANCE, and EMPATHY may be flourishing.  You may know the PURPOSE for your relationship and your life MISSION. You may even have a sense of MASTERY of your relationships and your life.  If you have developed all of the above skills to an adequate (not perfect) level, then you will easily and often find yourself living in the FLOW, loving your life and loving your relationships.

Today’s question is:  How often and how easily do you find yourself living and loving in the FLOW?

  • Are you able to roll with the punches, take the path of least resistance, and enjoy drifting along within your relationships?
  • Can you set the course, ask for what you want, encourage others to express their needs and then creatively rise above the tide?
  • When you feel a surge of fear, discomfort, emotional uncertainty, disappointment even boredom, can you stay the course, ride the wave, and continue to more forward within your relationships?

Ask yourself NOW: Can I stay in the FLOW when I encounter the ups and downs and ins and outs of loving relationships in my life?

Being in the FLOW is what allows works of art to be created.  Being in the FLOW leads to marriage, business development, and success at all levels of human being.  Relationships are a work of art in progress.  The instrument through which we create this masterpiece is LOVE.   With interest, determination, study and practice we CAN develop all the necessary skills and emotional overtones to build exquisite relationships filled with love.  Are YOU ready to develop MASTERY and get into the FLOW?

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 27 – PURPOSE

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Do you remember the original PURPOSE for your current business and personal relationships?  Did you begin in a state of neediness, seeing some quality in another person that could get you over some difficulty or struggle?  Have you progressed and are now feeling different yet you are still involved in the same relationships?

Knowing your original PURPOSE and your current PURPOSE for each relationship can result in your having to make some pretty strong decisions.  There may be some relationships that at one time had served you well but currently seem to diminish your passion and drive.  If your PURPOSE is clear, you can easily determine whether you are just in an emotional slump or if this relationship no longer serves you.

Consider the PURPOSE for your relationship.

Today’s question is:  What was the original PURPOSE for your current business or personal relationship and is that original PURPOSE still valid and appropriate?

  • Does the original PURPOSE for your relationship keep you devoted, dedicated and persistently focused on building, growing and achieving success?
  • Do you have a single-minded reason, that your rational mind approves of, to continue your commitment to this relationship?
  • Can you focus on a principle, an idea, a goal or a specific target that keeps you motivated and striving toward  success in this business or personal relationship?

Ask yourself NOW: How strong and clear is my PURPOSE for creating, maintaining and improving my business and personal relationships?

When you are clear about your PURPOSE, your reason, and your unique “WHY” for pursuing, establishing and nurturing specific relationships in your life, you will easily be able to access all of those other valuable emotional qualities.  When you know your PURPOSE, your fear, resistance, worry and apprehension will take a back seat to your determination, drive and persistence. 

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 26 – EMPATHY

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EMPATHY  seems to be so much like sensitivity and understanding, yet it is a slightly different quality.  When we are sensitive, we are aware of our own emotions, bodily sensations and how we are interpreting a given event or response from someone else.  When we are sensitive we also recognize that someone else’s response may be different from our own.  When we understand how we and the other person are thinking and feelings, we can more easily choose how we want to respond.  But without empathy, it can become an intellectual process.  Without empathy, we may feel bothered, annoyed or even indifferent to someone else’s needs and desires.

You may have a strong INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and  COMMUNICATION. You PRACTICE relationships skills, you balance TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMY,  your SENSITIVITY. UNDERSTANDING, RECEPTIVITY, FORGIVENESS and ACCEPTANCE may be apparent.  But do you have EMPATHY for yourself in your own struggles and for another person whose struggles may be different from your own?

Today’s question is:  How much EMPATHY are you able to feel for others when they express emotions that make you uncomfortable or that you feel are exaggerated and unnecessary?

  • Are you able to actually imagine and visualize what it must feel like to be another person, to live with their mindset and values?
  • Can you identify with another person, tune in and actually feel similar emotions, without losing your own sense of self?
  • Can you freely respond with compassion, interest, and understanding when you do not live up to your own expectations or when someone you are close to disappoints, hurts or even betrays you?

Ask yourself NOW: How easily and readily can I share EMPATHY with myself and others when life throws a curve ball and I am not feeling strong and centered?

Research about what qualities are essential in a therapeutic relationship has indicated time and again that the most essential quality is EMPATHY.  It is not the specific method or even the level of expertise and skill that can help to uplift and transform another person’s mindset.  The one quality that helps a person to change is EMPATHY.  Everybody wants to be loved and accepted and acknowledged for being exactly the way we are.  Nobody wants to be expected to change to please another person. If we feel pressured and expected to change, the most natural thing to do is to adamantly resist. But when someone seems to know us at a really deep level, when someone seems to really “get who we are,” and when we feel understood, accepted, cared for and acknowledged, then we may be willing to let down our guard and make those small changes that are needed.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 25 – ACCEPTANCE

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ACCEPTANCE  is the quality most us are seeking to receive and longing to feel in all of our relationships.  The opposite, rejection or dismissal, can be the most painful and self-demeaning experiences in our lives.  When we feel put down, ignored, invalidated or unnoticed, our world as we know it can collapse.  It doesn’t matter if we are the most intelligent, most attractive, most talented, best performing athlete, highest paid speaker, most accurate scientist, or most sensitive lover, our sense of ACCEPTANCE can greatly influence the way we view our self, our life, and our actual performance.

You may have a strong INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and  COMMUNICATION. You PRACTICE relationships skills, you balance TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMY,  your SENSITIVITY. UNDERSTANDING, RECEPTIVITY and FORGIVENESS are readily apparent.  But are you able to allow full ACCEPTANCE of your relationship exactly the way it is at the current moment without feeling the pressure to deny, suppress or change something immediately.

Today’s question is:  How strong is your emotional capacity for full and unswerving ACCEPTANCE of the current reality in your business, professional, and personal relationships?

  • Are you able to receive the gifts that others are willing and able to give, even if they fall far short of your desires and expectations?
  • Can you tolerate differences of opinion, lifestyle, values, behaviors and attitudes and even acquiesce in support of another person’s agenda?
  • Can you freely recognize, acknowledge, and approve of others even when their beliefs and actions directly conflict with your own?

Ask yourself NOW: How easily and readily can I allow ACCEPTANCE to overrule my need to be right, my desire to make changes, and my fear that I am losing control in a relationship?

ACCEPTANCE may be the glue that holds a relationship together.  After many years of shared space at home or in a work environment, ACCEPTANCE of each others temperament, needs, and style of behaving can lessen the stress and expand the love.  Love and ACCEPTANCE is the honey that soothes old wounds, bridges gaps in communication, and feeds the process of bonding in any relationship.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of LIfe – Day 24 – FORGIVENESS

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FORGIVENESS is not a one-time event.  When we get involved in a relationship, any relationship which involves closeness, shared activities, and dual responsibility, our emotions will sometimes be aroused and not in the way we want and expect.  When the other person upsets us, treats us unfairly, fails to keep promises and commitments, or blindsides us in some reprehensible way, to maintain the relationship we will have to practice FORGIVENESS.

The New Testament of the bible states that we need to forgive “70X7.”  It does not tell us to forgive once and then walk away.  It does not tell us to forgive and expect the other person to instantly discontinue their wayward activities.  No, the bible reminds us to keep forgiving and even to “turn the other cheek.”  We are also told that “the meek shall inherit the earth.”

Does this mean that we owe it to other people to become a perpetual doormat?  No.  There is a deeper meaning to FORGIVENESS.  What I like to use as a metaphor is a person who is a Black Belt in Karate or a master at Tai Chi or some other martial art.  When a student reaches a high level of mastery in a fighting sport, that person knows how to instantly kill another person.  Knowing that bring a powerful responsibility.  A martial arts master will not seek a fight, will not provoke a fight, and will willingly turn the other cheek and forgive 70X7.  However, if the danger or provocation by the other becomes too great, the master may just point a finger with total clarity and intensity of focus, and the other person will either go flying or will be struck dead.

So here you are.  You have established your INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and  COMMUNICATION. You PRACTICE relationships skills, you balance TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMY,  your SENSITIVITY. UNDERSTANDING and RECEPTIVITY are strong.  But what happens when another person does you wrong, hurts you, disappoints you, abuses you or betrays your trust and love?

Today’s question is:  How strong is your willingness to allow FORGIVENESS to rule in all situations in your life – maybe not in the exact moment of emotional devastation – but as you develop greater understanding and wisdom?

  • Are you able to readily forgive another person for wrongdoing without holding on to blame and criticism, judgement and ruthless distancing?
  • Can you absolve yourself or someone else from guilt and blame, showing mercy and tolerance, even if  the remorse and regret is not as strong as expected?
  • Do you understand, pardon, feel compassion and even pity for the other person, knowing that if someone feels loved they do not need to hurt others?

Ask yourself NOW: How easily and readily am I able to practice FORGIVENESS of myself first and then all others with whom I am in even a momentary relationship?

FORGIVENESS  is powerful.  It frees up our energy, allowing our mind to focus on what we choose in the present moment.  Without FORGIVENESS, our mind loops back over and over ruminating about someone or something that has not pleased us.  And then our emotions kick in and we feel upset, disgruntled, frustrated, angry and whatever else gets stirred up in our consciousness.  As we allow FORGIVENESS to enter our consciousness, we are instantly soothing our body, relaxing our thinking process and bringing our mind, mind and spirit into balanced equilibrium.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 23 – RECEPTIVITY

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RECEPTIVITY, an open mind, open heart and open arms toward us, cannot help but bring a smile to our face and a warm feeling spreading through our body.  We thrive on someone else’s RECEPTIVITY to us, to our ideas, to our suggestions, to our expressed and unexpressed needs and desires.   Often, we expect the other person – in business, in family, in friendship and in our most intimate relationship – to be receptive, caring, demonstrating acceptance, and being friendly and approachable to us.  But do we reciprocate?

You may be clear about your INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and  COMMUNICATION. You PRACTICE your relationships skills, you are able to balance TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMY,  your SENSITIVITY  and UNDERSTANDING are strong. But can you allow your RECEPTIVITY to surpass your resistance, judgement, blame, emotional upsets and resentments that occur when life hits you some curve balls?

Today’s question is:  How strong is your RECEPTIVITY to another person’s different perspective, opposing needs and desires, and alternative ways of handling and altering plans and activities that directly affect you?

  • Are you accessible, approachable, open, friendly and readily interested in the people with whom you have business and personal relationships?
  • Can you avoid expressing hostility, judgement, anger, frustration and disdain when another person directly opposes what YOU think is the correct and best way to do something?
  • Do you remain calm and centered, caring and attentive toward yourself and another person, in the face of that person’s anger, argumentativeness, lack of empathy, intimidation and aggression?

Ask yourself NOW: How much RECEPTIVITY am I able to exhibit before I start to resist, judge, blame, withdraw and indicate my displeasure at another person’s attitudes and actions that differ from what I want and expect?

RECEPTIVITY is one of the qualities that we all love in babies, young children and in starry eyed lovers.  They respond openly with all of their senses.  They smile and laugh, giggle and reach out to touch, and are totally accepting of the present moment and the person who is presently the object of their attention and affection.  However, as a baby grows up and as two lovers spend more time together, they may gradually lose that spontaneous RECEPTIVITY.  Concerns and issues of daily living, unmet needs, and inappropriate expectations can cause a once receptive person to become guarded, self-protective, distrustful and resistant.  The goal is to develop Beginner’s Mind, to become like a child again or a lover of life, and to embrace life with a full dose of RECEPTIVITY daily.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 21 – SENSITIVITY

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SENSITIVITY  is a quality that many people prefer to hide, wanting to appear strong, indifferent and independent. However, it is precisely when we reveal our SENSITIVITY that the other person’s tender feelings are aroused.  When we reveal our sensitivity, other people tend to feel empowered and important. Then they are more likely to want to reach out to nurture, and soothe, and please us.

You may now have INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, full SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION,  good COMMUNICATION, PRACTICE building relationships skills, a healthy balance between TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMYHowever, if your SENSITIVITY is suppressed, hidden, denied or lacking due to too much self interest, all the other qualities will soon have less significance.

Today’s question is:  Do you consistently express your SENSITIVITY when your business associates, friends, family or loved ones express their needs, desires or intentions – and – those are different from your own expectations and needs?

  • Are you able to disagree or even feel emotionally wounded and at the same time empathize with the emotions of another?
  • How often are you thoughtful about what another person may want, need or intend even when that person has difficulty expressing it or asking for it?
  • Do you show sympathy, compassion, kindliness and warmth toward those you say you care about?

Ask yourself NOW:  How consistently and openly do I express my SENSITIVITY so that other people around me feel emotionally safe, acknowledged, understood and appreciated?

SENSITIVITY is often viewed as insecurity, weakness and emotional instability.  When I was young, on several occasions when I would rightfully express my concern about someone else’s hurtful words or actions, they would respond by telling me “You’re too sensitive.”  Has anyone ever told YOU that you are too sensitive?  What they really mean is that you are sensitive and they don’t want to be bothered with attempting to understand your feelings and make changes in their own behaviors.

SENSITIVITY for the plight and struggles of others is important.  But even more essential is to develop SENSITIVITY to your own emotional, physical, intellectual and spiritual needs and longings.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 18 – PRACTICE

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When we are learning a new skill, learning a new process at work, or attempting to develop a new habit pattern, it is essential for us to PRACTICE what we have just learned.  And we need to PRACTICE consistently over a period of time to maintain our skills and achieve the best results.  Creating fulfilling relationships also requires PRACTICE of those personality styles and emotional traits that do not come easily to us.

Do YOU consistently PRACTICE the habit patterns and communication skills, in business and in your personal relationships, that you know will enhance your self-expression, personal interactions, trust and intimacy with others?

You may have developed and expressed a strong INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, full SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION,  and good COMMUNICATION. But unless you PRACTICE what you have discovered, learned and developed, any one of these aspects will slowly dissipate and lose its influence.

Today’s question is:  How consistently and with how much sincerity and intensity do you PRACTICE the thoughts, behaviors and attitudes that you know will enhance your potential for creating joyful and satisfying relationships?

  • How consistently and carefully do you  exercise and PRACTICE your COMMUNICATION, COMPASSION AND CREATIVITY processes?
  • Do you often observe yourself and others and then prepare and rehearse the skills you have acquired in relationship building?
  • Have you created a method, a system, and a routine that enables you and others to perform in a manner that enhances your relationships?

Ask yourself NOW: Am I willing to take the time needed to PRACTICE and improve my relationship building skills?

PRACTICE makes perfect.  PRACTICE is often the least talked about relationship building skill.  Many of us want to believe that learning is a one time experience – “My partner has learned….” and therefore “I expect….”  What we forget is that even with the best of intentions, it takes around 28-30 days of constant repetition for a new habit to develop.  And then it takes a lot more Practice for that new skill to remain a reliable habit.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 17 – COMMUNICATION

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COMMUNICATION, the Big C, can literally make or break a relationship.  Our thoughts cannot easily be read by others, even though they feel and respond to the energy we are emanating based upon our thoughts and feelings.  But each person interprets energy and internal sensations  according to their own concepts and beliefs.  That is why meeting a new person can be so exciting and unnerving, because we do not know what they are thinking and feeling.  We only know the way our own body is responding and we know our own self-created version of what another person may be experiencing.

Are you able to easily and consistently share COMMUNICATION that expresses what you currently think and feel and at the same time encourages and enables full disclosure and cooperation from others?

You may now have the INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, and even your full SEXUAL EXPRESSION and COMPASSION for others. But how good is your COMMUNICATION when any one of these attributes within yourself or another person is being challenged, frustrated, suppressed or denied?

Today’s question is:  Can you engage in consistent, ongoing and clear COMMUNICATION  that allows you to fully express your wants and needs and desires and at the same time encourages and supports the full expression of the expectations and requirements of others?  And can you remain in a calm, loving and peaceful state of mind when hearing words you do not want to hear?

  • How clearly and precisely do you share your thoughts and emotions, concerns and acknowledgements with others?
  • Are your interactions more like consultation, dialogue and free exchange of ideas or monologues during which you are persuading, convincing, and even demanding your per-determined responses from others?
  • Do you show others that you are interested in them and that you by responding quickly to their COMMUNICATION attempts and by reaching out often to connect with them?

Ask yourself NOW: Does my COMMUNICATION with others indicate that I am concerned, interested and caring about them or do i tend to communicate when I expect to receive something or get my own needs met?

COMMUNICATION is occurring all the time.  We cannot NOT communicate.  If we do not send a text, make a phone call or connect in some3 way with another person who is expecting to hear from us, then we are communicating that we do not care that much.  If we do not share our needs and desires with the people we live with, work with or spend time with, we are communicating to them that either we don’t have those needs and desires or satisfying them does not matter that much to us.

COMMUNICATION of our wants and needs, intentions and plans, and overall values in life CAN cause us to lose friendships, perhaps lose a job, a client or a customer, but without communicating we begin to lose a sense of our own self.  Without communicating, we suppress our own integrity, motivation and determination to follow our dreams.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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