Goodbye My Friend – Love Does Not Die

Friendship is golden.  It lasts in our heart for a lifetime.  Don’t ever underestimate the power of your kind word,  your acceptance and your caring.

Thank you for being my friend

One of my favorite lifelong friends passed away the day before Thanksgiving and I got the news on Black Friday, the day of her funeral. She had always lived with a strong zest for life, always attempting to keep a level-headed perspective. In her presence, I always felt totally accepted and allowed to speak my truth and be myself. The tears flowed for the loss of my beloved friend, even though we did not live nearby or see each other often. The good part is that in the last few years we spent a few brief days together and I did tell her how much she meant to me and how much I cared. Our hearts connected in a spirit of love. She is gone and sadness touches my heart but I know she leaves behind a trail of loving hearts.

My friend, Barbara V. Schonbrun Wassum, was an avid 4.5 ranked tennis player. Together we started our personal tennis journeys by betting a penny each time we missed the ball. The person who missed the fewest shots would collect all the pennies. Over the years we had basically drifted apart, only connecting through holiday greetings. But when I relocated to Florida, she and her husband Don would visit once each winter season and we would play some tennis, share a meal or two, talk and laugh. It is so wonderful how time disappears when you love another person. All those years between mattered not. I did tell her how much I cared and I shared with her a wonderful healing Rubenfeld Synergy session during which she vowed to fight those chemo/radiation chemicals because she said: “I am no longer fighting the cancer. My body is now fighting the chemicals. And I have competed in tennis and I will not give up fighting.” And she did fight and she traveled somewhere special one last time after I saw her.

On Black Friday, when I saw the message that my beloved friend Barbara had passed on, I wrote the following poem I would like to share with you. I am thankful for a friendship that has lasted through many decades of my life and continues onward in my heart.

Goodbye My Friend

Smiling together as we heard the graduation talks
Life beamed its light upon us with our dreams intact
You were the rock, the shining example of womanhood
A firm approach to men with a gentle acceptance of life
And life was good to you for many years
A comfortable home, devoted spouse and beautiful children
Filled your life with a true sense of meaning and purpose
That passionate desire to play full out in tennis and in life
Created the foundation for a flourishing business venture
A natural born teacher, you taught about love by being you
Studying and sharing what you knew about nature’s ways
Even in illness you found a way to fight back and endure
For longer than expected but not long enough for those who love you
My dear sweet friend I have always loved your very presence
When you were near I felt okay to be myself, to just be me
Truths were shared and emotions were bared
Always in the spirit of loving acceptance of the way it is
Though our times together were infrequent and sparse
I have always thought of you with fondest regards
Now I can no longer call you on the phone or meet for lunch
Yet you remain in my heart a smiling and loving nod of acceptance
Goodbye my friend
We will meet again one day I know.

© 11/23/12 Erica Goodstone, Ph.D.

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Discover the Gift of Giving


The Gift of Love

Are you looking for love, appreciation, acceptance, acknowledgement, health, wealth and success in all the wrong places? Napoleon Hill, the author of Think and Grow Rich, a book that has changed the lives of countless men and women through several generations, teaches a very simple method for attaining whatever it is you want and desire in your life.

In a small notebook, on the first page write a clear description of your biggest, loftiest, most bodacious life goal. Many teachers and mentors have taught the power of clearly stating your goals, writing them and visualizing them. However, Napoleon Hill adds another piece which is actually the cornerstone, the holy grail, the true “Secret” to success.  On the second page, he asks you to list what you are willing to give in order to get what it is you desire.

Napoleon Hill, a man who discovered the universally creative power of control over your own mind, talked about the boomerang effect of freely giving without expectation. That is a winning combination for attaining anything and everything you desire in your life.

Many of us have become really good at stating what we want. We remind our self. We tell everybody else. And we keep seeking what we want. The problem is, we forget the power of giving. When you give the exact thing that you want, even if you think you don’t have enough of it yet to give, the very act of giving sends a signal to your own subconscious mind and out to the universe that you already have what it is that you want.

Zig Ziglar, the well known author of See You at the Top and a highly persuasive speaker, explains this concept so clearly. “You can have everything in life that you want if you just give enough other people what they want.”

Are you looking for love, wishing for love, longing for love or just sad about not having enough love in the way you want it? My question is, “How much love are you giving, sharing, expressing and being?”

Are you trying to succeed in a business or career, working hard, struggling, and wondering why you don’t seem to be getting the results you think you deserve? My question is, “Are you actively giving away your best information, your special knowledge, your interest and concern for others? Are you giving to others that which you are desiring to attain for yourself?”

Are you feeling tired, depleted, disconnected, or unhealthy physically, emotionally or even spiritually? My question is: “Are you giving to yourself the time, sleep, rest, nourishment, nurturing, acceptance, and love that you might give to others?”


Heal through love. That is the only way to heal everything in your life.


Talk to me. Schedule appointment to create love now.




Dr. Erica

What Does Love Mean to YOU?





  • Some us us view love as synonymous with our sexual passion.  When we have the “hots” for someone, we view it as love.  If and when that passion wanes, we feel that we no longer love and we seek someone else to stir that passion within us again.
  • Some of us view love as a commitment, a decision to support, value, share with and be with another person indefinitely, regardless of how happy or unhappy we may feel at times.
  • Some of us view love as a source of happiness, a place to feel as if we are on vacation.  If and when it no longer feels good, we are out of there, on to the next, seeking a new place to feel happy.


I have a view of love that seems to be quite different from many of the people I meet and work with.  Many people choose passion and happiness over long term commitment.


I chose love and commitment – no matter what – and I have certainly been tested more than most.  My marriage has been, for me, a testing ground for my own ability to love, to create healing through love, to be and become love.  Not an easy choice and I have often forsaken momentary happiness for the ongoing struggle to overcome adversity and bring forth the love.  At this point the love is prominent and we have overcome some really difficult problems that many, many people would not stick around to deal with.


Right before writing this post I checked out my Pinterest site and repinned the wonderful quote below  from one of my favorite actors who is no longer with us, Paul Newman.  He and his life partner, Joanne Woodward, shared a solid marriage for many years.  I had the privilege of meeting his wife in a Pilates class when I lived in Westport, Connecticut about a decade ago.  She has a sweet, unassuming and friendly disposition  But she is no pushover.  In a talk show interview during his prime, I remember him describing his wife as follows, “Why would I want a hamburger if I have a steak?”  And she managed to remain a “steak” for him for the rest of his life.


Here is Paul Newman’s letter to his wife on their wedding day:


“ Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding rooms for things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.”


Check out my Kindle book, The Delicate Dance of LoveFind out how YOU can create lasting and fulfilling love by discovering what really matters most to you.

Schedule an appointment, even just one session, to create love now.




Dr. Erica

Do you love your life?

David Attenborough – Wonderful World - BBC

David Attenborough – Wonderful World - BBC


Life is beautiful.  Life is wonderful.  Life is amazing. Life is a wonder.  Life is what you believe it is.  Is YOUR life magnificent?

Love is all around.  Love exists for every living being.  Love is everywhere.  Love emanates from within you.  Do YOU love life?

Health is our natural state of being.  Healing is possible in every moment.  Our capacity for healing is infinite.  Are YOU healing and healthy now?

Are you bothered by the storms of life?  Do you let natural occurrences get you down?  Are you afraid to let yourself be free?

ANSWER THIS QUESTION FIRST:  Who am I now, in this moment?



“I AM ….”

If you are not struck by the wondrous awe of being alive, as YOU, in this body, in these circumstances, at this time, NOW, then please contact me for a quick boost of inspiration and love.  Maybe all you need is someone to listen, understand and help you to see your own magnificence.

Do you know how magnificent you are?  Please share your own greatness in a comment below.  Or schedule a healing session at


Dr. Erica


Can You GIVE the Love You Want to Receive?

Are You Prepared to Give the Love You Want to Receive NOW?

Choose Love Over Fear

Choose Love Over Fear (Photo credit: elycefeliz)

How freely do you share your love with others?  The time to share your love is NOW, no matter what is going on in your life.  Did you know that what you give, what you supply to others, multiplies and eventually provides for you more than you could have imagined. 

What You Supply You Multiply.

Every religion teaches us this principle.  In the bible it is written: “Now he who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will also supply and increase your store of seed and will enlarge the harvest of your righteousness.”  2 Corinthians 9:10, New International Version (©1984)

Share with others from a state of abundance, even when your first inclination is to hold onto it for yourself.  Did you know that whatever it is you currently want, if you can cause another person to have it, you will also get it?

  • Do you desire love?  Share your love abundantly, even when you feel you have none left to give.
  • Do you need money?  Give a portion of the money you already hsve, with love, to others.
  • Do you crave affection?  Be affectionate, offer a hug, be loving toward everyone you know.
  • Do you want attention?  Pay attention to others, listen, hear and respond to them with love.

“If I could speak in any language in heaven or on earth but didn’t love others, I would only be making meaningless noise like a loud gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I knew all the mysteries of the future and knew everything about everything, but didn’t love others, what good would I be? And if I had the gift of faith so that I could speak to a mountain and make it move, without love I would be no good to anybody. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would be of no value whatsoever.”  1 Corinthians 13:1-3

Exceed your own limited beliefs about what you currently are able to give.   Share a portion of your money freely, even and especially when you seem to have very little.  Share your love abundantly, even when you currently feel as if nobody cares about you.  Impart your knowledge and wisdom, even the small amount you have currently acquired.  Give more patience and tolerance to others than you feel you really have.  And above all, share your love with everyone you encounter.  See the divinity and the value of every soul you meet.  Give your love freely and watch your life expand beyond your wildest expectations.

Remember to share your gifts abundantly NOW.

Please leave a comment about what is true for you about sharing your love abundantly.


Dr. Erica

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Let Go and Let Love

Love, a simple 4 letter word, has the power to dissolve problems, dissipate conflict and deliver happiness and joy.  Do you know what it would be like for you to “let go and let love”?  My colleague and friend, John Gaydon, used those words in a comment about my previous blog post.  I kept repeating those words to let them sink into my subconscious.

I love my body

My Ankle is Lovingly Protected

It was Thursday morning, a warm sunny day in January 2012.   I was playing my favorite sport, tennis, after a 9 month hiatus due to injuries.  And then, in a second, the tennis was over.  I stepped on a stray tennis ball (from the other court on which the pro was teaching a group clinic).  Totally out of control, I saw my left ankle bend completely sideways and then I heard a LOUD crack.  Nobody else heard the crack and when I sat down and removed my sneaker and sock, my foot looked okay.  It was not swollen and nothing appeared out of the ordinary.  My friend actually suggested I just walk it off and continue playing.

But I love my body too much to take a chance like that.  Luckily I had an ace bandage with me to wrap around the injured ankle.  A tennis pro saw me and found a frozen bag of peas for me to use as an ice bag temporarily.  I was able to drive so I chose to drive to my health club, sit in the jacuzzi, sauna and steam, stay calm, shower, and then call the doctor.  Luckily, he was available and I drove to his office, one hour away from my home.  The x rays revealed 2 torn ligaments and the best treatment was to put my left leg in a cast.  I chose the color purple which made me smile.  In fact, I continued smiling all the way home.

I chose to look at all the ways in which luck prevailed.  I was lucky that I was able to drive.  I was lucky that I could relax and shower at the health club.  I was lucky the doctor was available and could examine my ankle.  I was lucky to have a cast that would protect my ankle and enable it to heal naturally.  I was lucky that a few friends called and sounded truly concerned.  And I was lucky that I could attend a powerful event, You Can Succeed, the following.

Love prevailed.  I love my life.  I love my body.  What made me most happy is that an injury occurred but it was handled swiftly and in the most appropriate manner to insure speedy recovery.

  • Are YOU happy and in love with your life, your health, your finances and your relationships?
  • Are you holding on to something or someone familiar when you know you desire something else?
  • What would it be like for you to follow your passion no matter what?
  • Would you be able to let go of your present comforts and let love lead the way for you?

So I know I cannot play tennis for at least 6 weeks.  Yet I know that tennis will be there when my ankle heals and I believe it will be even stronger than before because I will be putting concentrated effort into exercising it properly.  And now I can focus more fully on launching my Complete Relationship System which is scheduled to launch in just a few short weeks.

Please listen to a very special interview I had with David Riklan, founder of the very popular community site about what is included in my Complete Relationship System.

Remember to let go and let love.

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Dr. Erica





Love Knows – Your Heart is Smarter Than Your Mind

I know that no matter what the question or problem, no matter how difficult life and people seem to be, LOVE is always the answer.  Even in the most extreme of circumstances, feeling that love in your heart and tapping into the love energy can create seeming miracles.

A heart being used as a symbol of love. Photo ...

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Today I found an article at written by Rebecca Cherry that explains WHY love is so powerful.  In creating a new business, we have often been told it is necessary to have a strong WHY!  How can you truly create lasting love if you don’t know WHY – why you are here, why love matters, why you aren’t receiving the love you desire?  Learn to follow your heart and all else will be added unto you.

Follow Your Heart, it is Smarter Than You Think

Lit Corner | March 23, 2011 | 8:48 AM

“The heart is also the first organ that is being formed in the womb. The rest comes later.”

“Recently, Neurophysicists have been astonished to discover that the Heart is more an organ of intelligence, than (merely) the bodies’ main pumping station. More than half of the Heart is actually composed of neurons of the very same nature as those that make up the cerebral system. Joseph Chilton-Pearce, author of The Biology of Transcendence, calls it ‘the major biological apparatus within us and the seat of our greatest intelligence.’

The Heart is also the source of the body’s strongest electromagnetic field. Each heart cell is unique in that it not only pulsates in synchrony with all the other heart cells, but also produces an electromagnetic signal that radiates out beyond the cell. An EEG that measures brain waves shows that the electromagnetic signals from the heart are so much stronger than brain waves, that a reading of the heart’s frequency spectrum can be taken from three feet away from the body…without placing electrodes on it!

The Heart’s electromagnetic frequency arcs out from the Heart and back in the form of a torus field. The axis of this Heart torus extends from the pelvic floor to the top of the skull, and the whole field is holographic, meaning that information about it can be read from each and every point in the torus.

The Hearts’ torus electromagnetic field is not the only source that emits this type of electromagnetic field. Every atom emits the same torus field. The Earth is also at the center of a torus, so is the solar system and even our galaxy…and all are holographic. Scientists believe there is a good possibility that there is only one universal torus encompassing an infinite number of interacting, holographic tori within its spectrum. Because electromagnetic torus fields are holographic, it is more than likely that the sum total of our Universe is present within the frequency spectrum of a single torus.

This means that each one of us is connected to the entire Universe and as such, can access all the information within it at any given moment. When we get quiet and access what we hold in our Hearts, we are literally connecting to the limitless supply and Wisdom of the Universe, thereby enabling what we perceive as “miracles” to enter into our lives.

When we disconnect and shut down the Heart’s innate wisdom of Love-based thinking, the ego-based intellect takes over and operates independently of the Heart, and we revert to a survival mentality based on fear, greed, power, and control. In this way, we come to believe that we are separate, our perception of life shifts into one of limitation and scarcity, and one in which we must fight in order to survive. This amazing organ, that we often time ignore, neglect and build walls around, is where we can find our strength, our faith, our courage and our compassion, enabling our higher emotional intelligence that can, if we allow it, guide us through our lives.

We must now switch the gears out of the fear-based mental state that we have been taught to believe in, and move into Heart Centered living. For this transformation to take place, one must learn to meditate, “go into your Heart” and access the inner wisdom of the Universe. It is the only way, it is THE WAY. As each one of us begins this quiet revolution of living from the Heart, we will begin to see it reflected in our lives and in our World. This is how each one of us will create change in the world, create Peace, create Harmony and Balance, and in this way, will we all create the New World Paradigm of Heaven on Earth.”

Written by Rebecca Cherry.

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Here’s to creating healing and love NOW.


Dr. Erica

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Cuddling – Is it the Key to Long-Term Happy Relationships?

Cuddling may be more important to men then it is to women in determining the satisfaction of long term relationships. Do you believe that? Read what one recent research study discovered.
Cuddling Brings Long Term Relationship Joy

The 3 Serious Relationship Sins

We have all committed relationship sins, perhaps without even realizing.  In fact, it may have seemed so natural that we never even thought twice about it.

  • Are you guilty of committing any relationship sins, ever? 
  • Have your sins caused others to suffer irreparable emotional damage?
  • Have you endured intense emotional upset because someone is blaming you?
  • Do you feel guilty for having your own particular wants, needs and desires?
  • Have you committed unforgivable relationship sins?


By now you may be squirming, thinking “Uh-Oh,” my sins have been discovered. 

  • I am not as loving and giving as I pretend to be. 
  • I don’t always put my partner’s needs first. 
  • I have a big temper that often upsets those closest to me. 
  • I cheated on my partner once or I’m currently having an ongoing affair. 
  • I have a sexual fetish that I haven’t told anyone about.
  • I have a private addiction that could hurt my relationship.

Now, take a deep breath and a sigh of relief.  The list above are not the primary relationship sins, merely some of the many symptoms, the type of results that may occur, and not the original cause.  The mental process, the subconscious belief, and a certain incorrect way of thinking is always the cause.

Here are the three basic relationship sins.

  1. You think, believe and “know” the cause of the problem is outside yourself.
  2. You create an idol, a God, out of something or someone outside of yourself.
  3. You give, maybe you even give a lot, but you have an expectation of ROI.

#1 – If you truly believe the cause of any problem, any problem at all, is outside yourself and you are just a victim of circumstances, then your relationships are bound to suffer.  Your intimate partner will tell you something that disturbs him or her and you will put blinders on, seeing that person as demanding, controlling, selfish, wanting something from you, etc.  You co-worker suggest a new idea and you put your blinders on again, seeing that idea as useless or too difficult to implement or a threat to your currently comfortable way of working.

Seeing the problem, any problem, as outside yourself is a prescription for conflict and less than optimal success.  Begin to view all problems, even a non-working piece of equipment, as in some way related to something you have done, not done, overlooked, not properly cared for or at least a part of some higher plan that you do not currently understand.

#2 – Do not create an idol, a God, out of anyone or anything outside yourself.  Don’t idolize some beautiful young woman who appears to have everything you want.  Don’t idolize a man who appears to have the strength and romantic capability you long for. Don’t idolize a guru in your field of work or study.  Don’t idolize or turn to a substance or activity as a way of comforting yourself and avoiding facing your own reality.  Yes, it is okay to have preferences and people and activities that you enjoy, but beware when you make them into an idol that you pursue regardless of the effect upon the rest of your life.

#3 – Learn to give from your heart, freely and openly, without expectation of  ROI (return on investment).  Do not think of giving as an investment.  Do not give money to someone in order to buy their love.  Do not offer your body sexually to “obligate” someone into becoming intimate.  Do not give from an empy emotional bank account.  Fill your own consciousness with love and abundance first.  Then give from your own overflow without concern for receiving a return.  Good will eventually return to you, but it often comes from a source other than the one you expect it from.  Give freely and feel the gratitude in your heart, gratitude for your own abundance and ability to give. 

There you have it – the three serious relationship sins.  Your task now is to avoid these sins whenever possible, acknowledge them when they occur, and make it your goal to overcome them.  Enjoy your life fully.  Go — and sin no more!

Feel you can’t do it alone?  Please reach out for help.  Schedule a private coaching or counseling session

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Lessons in forgiveness from Elizabeth Edwards

Elizabeth Edwards and her family

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Elegance is a quality that emerges from forgiveness. Peace of mind, love and enjoyment of life also emerge from forgiveness.

Elizabeth Edwards stood by her husband during both of his campaign attempts to secure a position in the White House. During the last few days of his vice presidential campaign, she received the dreaded diagnosis of breast cancer. Elizabeth supported her husband’s next bid for office despite her ailing body but he lost the Democratic nomination to Barack Obama.

When she knew her end was near, (it was reported that the cancer had spread to her liver this past Monday), she wrote a note on Facebook explaining, she has “been sustained throughout my life by three saving graces – my family, my friends, and a faith in the power of resilience and hope.” She goes on to say “the days of our lives, for all of us, are numbered.” And then she adds, “It isn’t possible to put into words the love and gratitude I feel towards everyone who has and continues to support and inspire me every day.”

Are you appreciating your family, friends and harboring a sense of hope, resilience and gratitude? If not, what is stopping you?

Elizabeth Edwards has certainly endured her own share of suffering. Her beloved husband, the man she stood by and encouraged for so many years, fathered a child with another woman. It doesn’t get much more painful than that. And then she had to stand proud, facing the press and all those embarrassing and humiliating questions and comments.

Elizabeth Edwards showed her elegance through a quality of enduring strength, resilience and forgiveness. In her final hours, she shared those moments with her husband, John Edwards, her three children, her sibling and some friends. She apparently had found the strength within to forgive her husband for his indiscretions and to include him in her final moments of love.

When someone we love is dying, all we can feel is the love that has always been present. Her strength and resilience is an inspiration to all of us. Find a way to feel the love NOW!

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