Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 29 – MASTERY

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Mastery is the goal of every action and activity we engage in.  A newborn baby has not developed mastery over even the basic life skills such as eating and eliminating wastes.  Imagine living life in our society without mastery over basic bodily functions and habits.  Most of us would agree that we would have difficulty being productive and social.  However, when it comes to our relationships many of us do not think it is necessary to develop mastery.  We may think erronesously – “This is who I am, take it or leave it.”

You may have a strong INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and  COMMUNICATION. You PRACTICE relationships skills, you balance TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMY,  your SENSITIVITY. UNDERSTANDING, RECEPTIVITY, FORGIVENESS, ACCEPTANCE, and EMPATHY may be flourishing.  You may know the PURPOSE for your relationship and how this meshes with your life MISSION. Now is the time to focus on developing MASTERY of your relationships and your life.

Today’s question is:  If you have developed all the required relationship skills to some degree and you continue to practice, how close would you honestly say you are to having a true sense of MASTERY over creating and sustaining love in your most significant relationships?

  • Are you a leader helping others to overcome resistance and learn how to love?
  • Do others naturally turn to you as a mentor, teacher, confidant and expert on creating satisfying love relationships?
  • Can you tolerate differences, wait patiently, understand and accept what you receive, retain your passion and use your creative impulses to bring out the greatest love possible in all of your most significant relationships?

Ask yourself NOW: Have I developed MASTERY over creating, building and sustaining loving relationships?

In his book about motivation in business, Daniel Pink explains that our goal is to develop MASTERY.   But that can be a slippery slope.  It does not usually happen quickly.  It is fraught with obstacles, problems and sometimes requires true grit and persistence to get past the difficulties.  MASTERY, according to Pink, is a goal that cannot ever be reached.  But when we strive for MASTERY, we can create a relationship more beautiful than we could have imagined with love boomeranging back to us the more we give.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 28 – MISSION

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Each of us has a MISSION, a goal and intention for our life, that provides for us a sense of value, well-being and importance.  When you know your life MISSION, then it becomes so easy to focus and create your heart’s desire in any area of your life.  All of your energy will be aligned toward achieving and attaining your desired goals.  Life seems to have no intrinsic meaning.  Each of us is born.  Each of us will die.  The meaning we give to our life is determined by us.  We decide upon that meaning.  We choose our own personal MISSION.

You may have a strong INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and  COMMUNICATION. You PRACTICE relationships skills, you balance TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMY,  your SENSITIVITY. UNDERSTANDING, RECEPTIVITY, FORGIVENESS, ACCEPTANCE, and EMPATHY may be flourishing.  You may know the PURPOSE for your relationship.  But does this relationship support your life MISSION and the legacy you want to leave for those who follow you?

Today’s question is:  Have you determined your own unique life MISSION and have you been living in accordance with what it will take to fulfill your MISSION?

  • Are your current activities and the people you spend time with supportive and aligned with your life MISSION?
  • Do you have an underlying desire to pursue something or someone completely different from your current direction?
  • Are your emotions calm and serene, balanced and at peace, because you KNOW you are following the path that stirs your passion and calls you to take action?

Ask yourself NOW: Have I discovered and am I living according to my own chosen life MISSION?

When the purpose for your business and personal relationships is aligned with your grander vision of your life’s MISSION, all the required tasks and sacrifices, education and stumbling blocks, emotional pain and intermittent struggle, will not deter you from seeking to reach your goals.  When you know your MISSION and are determined to leave your legacy, the universe seems to open its portals and success naturally pursues you.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 27 – PURPOSE

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Do you remember the original PURPOSE for your current business and personal relationships?  Did you begin in a state of neediness, seeing some quality in another person that could get you over some difficulty or struggle?  Have you progressed and are now feeling different yet you are still involved in the same relationships?

Knowing your original PURPOSE and your current PURPOSE for each relationship can result in your having to make some pretty strong decisions.  There may be some relationships that at one time had served you well but currently seem to diminish your passion and drive.  If your PURPOSE is clear, you can easily determine whether you are just in an emotional slump or if this relationship no longer serves you.

Consider the PURPOSE for your relationship.

Today’s question is:  What was the original PURPOSE for your current business or personal relationship and is that original PURPOSE still valid and appropriate?

  • Does the original PURPOSE for your relationship keep you devoted, dedicated and persistently focused on building, growing and achieving success?
  • Do you have a single-minded reason, that your rational mind approves of, to continue your commitment to this relationship?
  • Can you focus on a principle, an idea, a goal or a specific target that keeps you motivated and striving toward  success in this business or personal relationship?

Ask yourself NOW: How strong and clear is my PURPOSE for creating, maintaining and improving my business and personal relationships?

When you are clear about your PURPOSE, your reason, and your unique “WHY” for pursuing, establishing and nurturing specific relationships in your life, you will easily be able to access all of those other valuable emotional qualities.  When you know your PURPOSE, your fear, resistance, worry and apprehension will take a back seat to your determination, drive and persistence. 

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 26 – EMPATHY

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EMPATHY  seems to be so much like sensitivity and understanding, yet it is a slightly different quality.  When we are sensitive, we are aware of our own emotions, bodily sensations and how we are interpreting a given event or response from someone else.  When we are sensitive we also recognize that someone else’s response may be different from our own.  When we understand how we and the other person are thinking and feelings, we can more easily choose how we want to respond.  But without empathy, it can become an intellectual process.  Without empathy, we may feel bothered, annoyed or even indifferent to someone else’s needs and desires.

You may have a strong INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and  COMMUNICATION. You PRACTICE relationships skills, you balance TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMY,  your SENSITIVITY. UNDERSTANDING, RECEPTIVITY, FORGIVENESS and ACCEPTANCE may be apparent.  But do you have EMPATHY for yourself in your own struggles and for another person whose struggles may be different from your own?

Today’s question is:  How much EMPATHY are you able to feel for others when they express emotions that make you uncomfortable or that you feel are exaggerated and unnecessary?

  • Are you able to actually imagine and visualize what it must feel like to be another person, to live with their mindset and values?
  • Can you identify with another person, tune in and actually feel similar emotions, without losing your own sense of self?
  • Can you freely respond with compassion, interest, and understanding when you do not live up to your own expectations or when someone you are close to disappoints, hurts or even betrays you?

Ask yourself NOW: How easily and readily can I share EMPATHY with myself and others when life throws a curve ball and I am not feeling strong and centered?

Research about what qualities are essential in a therapeutic relationship has indicated time and again that the most essential quality is EMPATHY.  It is not the specific method or even the level of expertise and skill that can help to uplift and transform another person’s mindset.  The one quality that helps a person to change is EMPATHY.  Everybody wants to be loved and accepted and acknowledged for being exactly the way we are.  Nobody wants to be expected to change to please another person. If we feel pressured and expected to change, the most natural thing to do is to adamantly resist. But when someone seems to know us at a really deep level, when someone seems to really “get who we are,” and when we feel understood, accepted, cared for and acknowledged, then we may be willing to let down our guard and make those small changes that are needed.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 25 – ACCEPTANCE

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ACCEPTANCE  is the quality most us are seeking to receive and longing to feel in all of our relationships.  The opposite, rejection or dismissal, can be the most painful and self-demeaning experiences in our lives.  When we feel put down, ignored, invalidated or unnoticed, our world as we know it can collapse.  It doesn’t matter if we are the most intelligent, most attractive, most talented, best performing athlete, highest paid speaker, most accurate scientist, or most sensitive lover, our sense of ACCEPTANCE can greatly influence the way we view our self, our life, and our actual performance.

You may have a strong INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and  COMMUNICATION. You PRACTICE relationships skills, you balance TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMY,  your SENSITIVITY. UNDERSTANDING, RECEPTIVITY and FORGIVENESS are readily apparent.  But are you able to allow full ACCEPTANCE of your relationship exactly the way it is at the current moment without feeling the pressure to deny, suppress or change something immediately.

Today’s question is:  How strong is your emotional capacity for full and unswerving ACCEPTANCE of the current reality in your business, professional, and personal relationships?

  • Are you able to receive the gifts that others are willing and able to give, even if they fall far short of your desires and expectations?
  • Can you tolerate differences of opinion, lifestyle, values, behaviors and attitudes and even acquiesce in support of another person’s agenda?
  • Can you freely recognize, acknowledge, and approve of others even when their beliefs and actions directly conflict with your own?

Ask yourself NOW: How easily and readily can I allow ACCEPTANCE to overrule my need to be right, my desire to make changes, and my fear that I am losing control in a relationship?

ACCEPTANCE may be the glue that holds a relationship together.  After many years of shared space at home or in a work environment, ACCEPTANCE of each others temperament, needs, and style of behaving can lessen the stress and expand the love.  Love and ACCEPTANCE is the honey that soothes old wounds, bridges gaps in communication, and feeds the process of bonding in any relationship.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 23 – RECEPTIVITY

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RECEPTIVITY, an open mind, open heart and open arms toward us, cannot help but bring a smile to our face and a warm feeling spreading through our body.  We thrive on someone else’s RECEPTIVITY to us, to our ideas, to our suggestions, to our expressed and unexpressed needs and desires.   Often, we expect the other person – in business, in family, in friendship and in our most intimate relationship – to be receptive, caring, demonstrating acceptance, and being friendly and approachable to us.  But do we reciprocate?

You may be clear about your INCENTIVE, INTENTION,  PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE,  inner ARCHITECT,  PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER,  COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE,  CREATIVITY,  SENSUALITY, SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and  COMMUNICATION. You PRACTICE your relationships skills, you are able to balance TOGETHERNESS and AUTONOMY,  your SENSITIVITY  and UNDERSTANDING are strong. But can you allow your RECEPTIVITY to surpass your resistance, judgement, blame, emotional upsets and resentments that occur when life hits you some curve balls?

Today’s question is:  How strong is your RECEPTIVITY to another person’s different perspective, opposing needs and desires, and alternative ways of handling and altering plans and activities that directly affect you?

  • Are you accessible, approachable, open, friendly and readily interested in the people with whom you have business and personal relationships?
  • Can you avoid expressing hostility, judgement, anger, frustration and disdain when another person directly opposes what YOU think is the correct and best way to do something?
  • Do you remain calm and centered, caring and attentive toward yourself and another person, in the face of that person’s anger, argumentativeness, lack of empathy, intimidation and aggression?

Ask yourself NOW: How much RECEPTIVITY am I able to exhibit before I start to resist, judge, blame, withdraw and indicate my displeasure at another person’s attitudes and actions that differ from what I want and expect?

RECEPTIVITY is one of the qualities that we all love in babies, young children and in starry eyed lovers.  They respond openly with all of their senses.  They smile and laugh, giggle and reach out to touch, and are totally accepting of the present moment and the person who is presently the object of their attention and affection.  However, as a baby grows up and as two lovers spend more time together, they may gradually lose that spontaneous RECEPTIVITY.  Concerns and issues of daily living, unmet needs, and inappropriate expectations can cause a once receptive person to become guarded, self-protective, distrustful and resistant.  The goal is to develop Beginner’s Mind, to become like a child again or a lover of life, and to embrace life with a full dose of RECEPTIVITY daily.

Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring.  Every quality is important, to some degree.  It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.

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