Domestic Violence – What do you know about it?
Domestic violence is more common than any of us would want to know, especially if you were brought up in a loving family and are currently living in a loving, nurturing environment. But many people, right this moment, are not so fortunate. The Domestic Violence Resource Center provides the following shocking and sobering data.
* “On average, more than three women and one man are murdered by their intimate partners in this country every day.”
* “The health-related costs of intimate partner violence exceed $5.8 billion each year. Of that amount, nearly $4.1 billion are for direct medical and mental health care services, and nearly $1.8 billion are for the indirect costs of lost productivity or wages.”
* “Nearly three out of four (74%) of Americans personally know someone who is or has been a victim of domestic violence.”
* “Between 600,000 and 6 million women are victims of domestic violence each year, and between 100,000 and 6 million men, depending on the type of survey used to obtain the data.”
* “One in four women (25%) has experienced domestic violence in her lifetime.”
If your interest has been perked, please click on this link to ask your most important question and get information about a special interview I will be conducting on Thursday, July 22, with THE expert in the area of domestic abuse and violence treatment training, Dr. Debra Wingfield. Click here now to ask your question: http://www.ASKDrDebraW.com .
Would YOU easily recognize the signs and symptoms of family dysfunction that may be the precursor to, or the result of, domestic violence? Would you know what to say, what to do and how to handle the situation if you knew a friend or family nmember was involved in an abusive and possibly dangerous relationship?
Do you know the 8 most important question therapists should ask during every intake or initial history session? Do you know the most important questions friends and family members should ask their loved ones to find out if abuse is, in fact, occurring? Do you know what a dysfunctional and potentially violent family does that may be different from a non-violent, more highly functional family? These are important questions to ask and find the answers to. The life you save may actually be your own or someone you really care about.
My colleague and fellow trainee in an online mentoring program, Dr. Debra Wingfield, has created a Domestic Violence Virtual Treatment Training to help practitioners in the helping professions to understand, treat and handle the problems that are part of the domestic violence syndrome affecting so many families.
Ask Dr. Wingfield your questions directly and listen for the answers she provides in a powerful teleseminar in which she is interviewed by Dr. Erica Goodstone. Go to http://www.ASKDrDebraW.com to ask your question.








July 16th, 2010 at 3:24 am
Erica,
I’m glad you’ve brought up this subject. Unfortunately this occurs too often. One of my dreams is to create a non-profit organization to support women in creating a more empowering life for themselves so they don’t feel they have to live under these conditions.
Living under any kind of abusive conditions tears up your self esteem. The encouraging part is you can change this with the correct mindset. I know this


Val
Val Wilcox recently posted..Go With the Flow
[Reply]
Dr. Goodstone Reply:
July 16th, 2010 at 4:09 am
I will be discussing this in a teleseminar next Thursday with my colleague and friend, Dr. Debra Wingfield. I was hesitant to post a blog about this, but I realize it is an important part of relationships and certainly affects our ability to love and to feel loved.
[Reply]
July 16th, 2010 at 3:54 am
[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Karin Boode, DrErica. DrErica said: New blog post: Domestic Violence – What do you know about it? http://bit.ly/9ka7DC [...]
July 16th, 2010 at 4:09 am
Karin, Thank you again for sharing my blog post. This one is important for people to know about. Erica
[Reply]
July 16th, 2010 at 1:43 pm
Hi Dale from TSA here, Wow there are some scary facts in that blog post! It’s a topic that most people do not know much about.
Very well written. Keep up the good work!
All The Best, Dale Werner
Dale Werner recently posted..FREE Unlimited “Lead Capture Pages! LAZER TARGET your Prospects! “Netdivvy”
[Reply]
Dr. Goodstone Reply:
July 16th, 2010 at 8:33 pm
This is not a subject I enjoy talking about. However, next Thursday I will be interviewing my colleague and friend, Dr. Debra Wingfield who has helped thousands of clients deal with these very issues. And now she is creating a virtual training program to assists health care professionals to understand this underexplored issue.
[Reply]
July 16th, 2010 at 1:56 pm
Hi Erica,
This is a good subject because a friend of mine was telling me that he had been beaten up by his then friend, and was never taken seriously by the police here in the UK. He also told me (but I have not research it to know if he is accurate or not) that there is only one shelter for battered men, but loads for battered women. Strange huh??
Great post as always
Keep smiling
Chris

Chris Hilaire recently posted..Mekong River – Catfish
[Reply]
Dr. Goodstone Reply:
July 16th, 2010 at 8:37 pm
Abuse of males is still one of those taboo subjects. I just found some statistics about domestic violence against males.
”
In 100 domestic violence situations approximately 40 cases involve violence by women against men. An estimated 400,000 women per year are abused or treated violently in the United States by their spouse or intimate partner. This means that roughly 300,000 to 400,000 men are treated violently by their wife or girl friend.”
See http://www.dvmen.org or ask a question at http://www.ASKDrDebraW.com
[Reply]
July 16th, 2010 at 9:10 pm
Thanks for sharing this Erica, it’s something that alot of people are reluctant to talk about.
I wouldn’t be suprised either by what Chris said about their only being one shelter for battered men.
It’s what children witness and have to go through in these relationships that worries me the most, it could effect them for years to come and perhaps shape their own relationships in the future.
Vanessa
Vanessa recently posted..The Emotional Freedom Technique- More Than Just Positive Affirmations
[Reply]
Dr. Goodstone Reply:
July 17th, 2010 at 2:16 am
Vaness, You are so right. That is why I am interviewing Dr. Debra Wingfield next Thursday night. She teaches therapists and health professionals how to handle domestic violence. She also teaches parents how to create peaceful homes, what it takes, and how to deal with an abusive partner. It is complex and difficult – and always, the children are affected in ways that may not really appear until later when they get into their own intimate relationships and create their own families.
Erica
[Reply]
July 16th, 2010 at 9:39 pm
Erica,
Thanks for sharing this article on such an important topic, Domestic Violence. I know of families that have experienced this first hand , and i know that identifying the problems and working on ways to correct thru counseling, love , and support can make a big difference. Glad to see you on TSA!
Chris Bernardo recently posted..Top 5 Questions- I want to know about YOU
[Reply]
Dr. Goodstone Reply:
July 17th, 2010 at 2:18 am
Thanks Chris. This is a huge problem – and it affects people in all socio-economic, relgious and ethnic groups. It is often more hidden and perceived as more shameful in more educated and more affluent families.
Erica
[Reply]
July 21st, 2010 at 2:17 am
good luck on the webinar this week Dr. Erica, you rock! i love how you are pioneering the social media space for other therapists, and helping highlight other leaders like Dr. Wingfield.
Melissa McCloud recently posted..I Like It Quick And Dirty
[Reply]
July 21st, 2010 at 4:17 am
Melissa, I really appreciate your support. Alex Mandossian’s Teleseminar Secrets course taught us to create ASK campaigns to interview others. I have been personally interviewed on many radio and blog talk radio shows. It is fun to be the guest and it is also enjoyable to be the interviewer – I just keep learning from such incredible people.
[Reply]
July 21st, 2010 at 10:59 am
Dr. Erica,
I’m very happy to see you sharing the topic on domestic violence. It’s a topic close to my heart, and I try to share resources, promote authors, and post webinars that deal with understanding domestic violence and how to get help.
You’re doing important work in shedding light on the subject. The victims are often blamed by society for not leaving the abuser, though people do not understand the dynamics in these kinds of toxic relationships.
Also, abused men have an even harder time in getting support because of the stereotypes of men/women. No matter the sex of the victim, it’s a heartbreaking situation. I think domestic abuse awareness and resources are key for people to understand and offer help to a friend who may need their support. Obviously, it’s crucial for the victims to take back control of their own lives. Professionals may want to help, so it’s important to be aware of the right kind of questions and how victims may react when confronted with questions.
It’s difficult to help sometimes because the violence in their lives permeates their thoughts, where the abuse seems ‘normal’. I’m going to share your post – hopefully, your interview will touch many people who will see that life can be wonderful, happy, and fulfilling.
Best,
Jennifer
Jennifer Akers recently posted..Does Cheap Radio Advertising Really Exist
[Reply]
July 21st, 2010 at 11:26 am
[...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Jennifer Akers, Jennifer Akers and Jennifer Akers, Jeani Derrough. Jeani Derrough said: RT @Jennifer_Akers: Domestic Violence – What do you know about it? | Create Healing and Love Now http://ping.fm/ZJxgQ [...]
July 24th, 2010 at 3:42 am
Jennifer,
Thanks for your very thoughtful comments. My colleague, Dr. Debra Wingfield’s life’s work is about educating people and helping them to deal with the morass of domestic abuse, violence and child abuse. When we think of love and intimate relationships, most of us like to only think about the loving, romantic and sexual aspects. But there is a darker side that affects the lives of way too many people – and there is a lot of shame and secrecy about it.
And someone caught in the cyle of domestic violence needs to know there is help and support and a way out.
Erica
[Reply]
July 25th, 2010 at 9:54 pm
This subject needs to be out and talked about more. I have seen it with friends and it is a scarey thing. Thanks for sharing Erica. I was never physically abused but emotionally I had some issues in the past.It is hard to admit at the time.
Beverly Monical recently posted..Four Powerful Strategies for Becoming The “Go To” Person In Your Business
[Reply]
Dr. Goodstone Reply:
July 26th, 2010 at 12:37 am
Beverly,
I would say that abuse is one of those taboos – very hard to talk about and hard to believe it is happening, even in the midst of it. But I agree, it does need to be talked about. The replay for the interview is available at http://www.ASKDrDebraW.com/replay.
Erica
[Reply]
March 30th, 2012 at 8:40 pm
This is such a good article. It is so important for women to know the statistic of domestic violence. With new statistics of 1 out of every 3 women being abused and 1 out of ever 4 in the church, something has to be done. Having the courage to speak up and speak out on domestic violence, change happens.
Continue the great work! Great site!
Kelly Ann Evers,
Founder of His Love Heals, Domestic Violence Help
[Reply]
March 31st, 2012 at 3:55 am
Kelly Ann,
Thanks for your kind supportive words. Yes, we do need to speak up. And there are many people taking a stand to educate people about this very real and growing problem. And don’t forget that there are many men who have been abused as well.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
[Reply]