Love in the Blizzard of Life – Day 18 – PRACTICE
When we are learning a new skill, learning a new process at work, or attempting to develop a new habit pattern, it is essential for us to PRACTICE what we have just learned. And we need to PRACTICE consistently over a period of time to maintain our skills and achieve the best results. Creating fulfilling relationships also requires PRACTICE of those personality styles and emotional traits that do not come easily to us.
Do YOU consistently PRACTICE the habit patterns and communication skills, in business and in your personal relationships, that you know will enhance your self-expression, personal interactions, trust and intimacy with others?
You may have developed and expressed a strong INCENTIVE, INTENTION, PRESENT MOMENT awareness, DRIVE, inner ARCHITECT, PATIENCE, ability to SURRENDER, COMMITMENT, TRUST, DISCERNMENT, PASSION, DESIRE, CREATIVITY, SENSUALITY, full SEXUAL EXPRESSION, COMPASSION, and good COMMUNICATION. But unless you PRACTICE what you have discovered, learned and developed, any one of these aspects will slowly dissipate and lose its influence.
Today’s question is: How consistently and with how much sincerity and intensity do you PRACTICE the thoughts, behaviors and attitudes that you know will enhance your potential for creating joyful and satisfying relationships?
- How consistently and carefully do you exercise and PRACTICE your COMMUNICATION, COMPASSION AND CREATIVITY processes?
- Do you often observe yourself and others and then prepare and rehearse the skills you have acquired in relationship building?
- Have you created a method, a system, and a routine that enables you and others to perform in a manner that enhances your relationships?
Ask yourself NOW: Am I willing to take the time needed to PRACTICE and improve my relationship building skills?
PRACTICE makes perfect. PRACTICE is often the least talked about relationship building skill. Many of us want to believe that learning is a one time experience – “My partner has learned….” and therefore “I expect….” What we forget is that even with the best of intentions, it takes around 28-30 days of constant repetition for a new habit to develop. And then it takes a lot more Practice for that new skill to remain a reliable habit.
Relationships are built upon the complexity and interactions among all the different possible qualities, both positive and negative, that we can bring. Every quality is important, to some degree. It is really the balance among all the different possibilities that can lead to joy and happiness or sadness and emotional devastation.
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Dr. Erica
January 21st, 2013 at 11:15 pm
Dr. Erica,
You are soo right, relationships do take Practice. and sometimes even more practice, and more… and more:) I have heard the saying that Nothing worth having is free, and yes although LOVE is technically free, perhaps this concept about Practice is kind of the same thing. You have to Practice to make it right. You have to be committed and both wanting to be successful.
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Dr. Goodstone Reply:
January 22nd, 2013 at 11:57 am
Regena,
Some of us are willing to practice skills we need to become good at a sport, at a creative pursuit, or for our business success. However, most of us don’t even think about practicing relationship skills.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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January 23rd, 2013 at 1:22 pm
Hi Erica,
This is a very good post needed by a lot of people. Yes, building relationship needs practise and after a while it becomes a habit but communication skill is another matter. I find it can be interesting if one can polish up communication skill not only on personal level but also in business. Sometimes, building relationship is easy when we happen to meet with people on the same level but if a person can communicate with people on all levels, then, to me, that is success in building relationship.
Thank you for sharing this good post. It reminds me to come back to read more so that I can learn more from you and set new skills. You are excellent in using your words…I love that !
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Cheers !
Pearly
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Dr. Erica Goodstone Reply:
January 23rd, 2013 at 8:05 pm
Pearly,
So nice to hear from you. I agree, communication skills are so important. We have to be aware of how the other person may be receiving and interpreting what we are saying. The words alone do not have the desired effect. We have to tap into the emotions, our own and the other person’s. And once we learn the skills, it is important to practice.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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Pearly Quah Reply:
January 24th, 2013 at 9:55 pm
Hey Erica,
See, I told you I love the way you are using the words and the way you construct your sentences !
) Very unique, humble, feminine and professional…very soothing too ! 
) Please remember to update me whenever you have new blog post, Erica.
Mean time, have a great weekend and enjoy.
Cheers !
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Dr. Erica Goodstone Reply:
January 24th, 2013 at 11:26 pm
Pearly, You have no idea how much your kind and supportive words mean to me.
Warmly,
Erica
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