Love is a Decision and a Choice
Love is a Choice, an Unwavering Decision. Once that decision is made, you need to be vigilant, caring and focused on creating and sustaining that love, moment to moment.
Will Smith, an actor whose presence on the screen is endearing and often humorous, reveals a very deep, contemplative and wise version of himself. He seems to grasp the universal law of attraction and success and living life to the fullest.
He explains how he is working and working while others are sleeping. He is building and developing and honing his skills to provide the best that he can be and that he can give to others in this world.
Most of us are not willing to work that hard, that consistently and be that diligent about creating success in our careers. Some of have discovered what it takes and has built huge business successes. Yet, even among those, there are very few who put that same effort and understanding into building their most intimate love relationships.
Love is a choice and a decision. Success is a choice and a decision. Listen to what Will Smith has to say about this.
And then decide for yourself:
What choices am I making today that I will stand for, live for, and even die for if it came to that?
Am I willing to love with that same level of choice, decision and commitment to excellence?
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Warmly,
Dr. Erica
June 25th, 2012 at 3:42 am
It is so true, Dr. Erica, love is a choice. It might seem like we fall in love with another at the whim of the Universe, and that might be so on some level. But on the level where it takes time and energy and dedication to love someone, I suspect that sometimes this is where people make a different choice in their lives.
It doe stake some dedication and commitment, but the results of applying that kind of energy to a relationship (that sounds kind of cold, but I don’t intend it that way), are wonderful to have in your life.
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June 25th, 2012 at 3:49 am
Michael,
Building any relationship does take time and some effort. If the only goal is “What can I get out of it” without having to give much, the results will not be as wonderful as when both people struggle together to overcome life’s problems. It works in business, in creative endeavors and in our most intimate relationships.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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June 26th, 2012 at 3:15 am
What a great article. I choose Love!
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June 26th, 2012 at 8:28 pm
Susan,
Knowing you, I must agree. You always seems to be choosing love and acceptance and joy.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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June 27th, 2012 at 2:05 am
Dr. Erica this capture the truth behind our most eager feeling to be loved and share love. It is a challenge at times and well worth every tear and smile.
I think as my relationship gets closer to 20 years the better I appreciate our bond. It is a reflection of years understanding we both are unique and that is what keeps us learning about each other daily. What a wild adventure each day is.
Thank you Dr. Erica for share this article. It shows support in so many ways needs to be focused on more in our relationships.
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June 27th, 2012 at 2:27 am
William,
I know from personal experience, 26 years, that the bond in a relationship does grow when the goal is to love and understand, accept and forgive your partner and yourself. And it is a continual choice to choose love.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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June 27th, 2012 at 8:28 pm
Hi Dr. Erica:
I absolutely loved that Will Smith video! So many gems in there. We need to always be seeking to better ourselves.
Thanks!
Kevin
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June 27th, 2012 at 10:53 pm
Kevin,
We need to always be learning how to love our self, others, and our life. And we need to keep feeling that purpose for being alive. Life is such a precious gift and it is even better when we make the most of every day we are given.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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June 29th, 2012 at 4:41 pm
Erica,
My take-away besides the awesome spirit that is Will Smith is that he was forged by family; and how important that is. Schools, teachers and Governments can not give you that gift. Really enjoyed the video.
Thank you!
Gary
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June 29th, 2012 at 4:52 pm
Gary,
That is so true. Every successful tournament tennis player (I’ve been watching Wimbledon)has a family, a coach and a team of supporters. If we were not born into a supportive family, we may need to reach out to counselors, therapists and coaches and find a way to build our own adult family that believes in and supports us. Many, many successful people did not come from loving, supportive families. But it is a greater task to rise above adversity than to be lifted by loving supporters.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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June 29th, 2012 at 5:15 pm
This is a great reminder to decide and stick with the decision. I like that Will Smith says that plan B is often a distraction to plan A.
Great article Dr. Erica.
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July 1st, 2012 at 10:12 pm
Thanks Dr. Valencie, I always enjoy watching Will Smith in a movie and it is great to see his work ethic and style. When we have a plan B, it may make us feel better but it can cause us to procrastinate and not put in as much determined effort.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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July 1st, 2012 at 3:55 am
Love and support are clearly necessary. In business we all need a team of supporters. After all, if we are selling…we need buyers. But more importantly is the belief in the business owner as someone we know like and trust…..I love that you write about love and support. We have found in Feel the Hugs® that love and support are the root of our business and its through people and their loving connections
that help many get through the difficult times. You are so correct Dr Erica, love is a choice xo
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July 1st, 2012 at 10:15 pm
Karen,
Yes,love is a choice and at http://www.FeeltheHugs.com, people can really have a sense of feeling loved. You are so right that we all need hugs and we also all need to feel loved and supported.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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July 2nd, 2012 at 11:23 pm
Hi Erica,
Love is a choice and a decision. So true. And yet we forget that when it comes to love. Whether’s it’s loving our work, loving our dear ones or loving ourselves.
I love Will’s line (paraphrase) I know where i’m at – you can do what you need to do. Love that.
Sarah
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July 3rd, 2012 at 1:26 am
Sarah,
You have pointed out something important. “I know where I’m at” and I know who I am. When this is true, we are able to stand up to adversity, stand up to nay sayers and difficult people, and fully pursue our dreams.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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July 10th, 2012 at 11:28 pm
Hi Dr. Erica,
thank you so much for sharing this.
The video really gives an insight into Will Smith and why he is such an amazing actor and has such great presence and an expression of a vast range of emotions.
Very inspirational.
Much appreciated!
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July 11th, 2012 at 1:42 am
Yorinda,
I have always loved watching Will Smith. He looks so natural but obviously has spent many hours perfecting his craft. Why do we all tend to think that we should be able to succeed quickly and easily when those who have attained success worked so hard to get there?
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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August 27th, 2012 at 1:56 pm
The older I get, I constantly have to remind myself that Love is a verb. As you carefully stated, it’s a choice and I would add, that Love is a way of being. It’s something that with time and “practice” for lack of a better word, get’s better and better. My goal in Love is to be more patient, compassionate, and thus give more unconditional LOVE to those around me. As Will says, make someone’s Life better, otherwise it’s wasted. Make a difference. LOVE IT! Thanks Erica;)
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August 27th, 2012 at 3:43 pm
Regena,
So true that the goal of love needs to be to make someone’s life better. Many people think of love as getting others to do something for themselves in exactly the way they want it done. Actually the goal of love, if you can call it a goal, is to accept, understand, empathize and care about and to uplift others.
Warmly,
Erica
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