Savor The Flavor of Love
Love comes in all shapes and colors and sizes. The media flaunts certain images at us which are seen as the icons of beauty and success. Some of us seek love by only viewing the outward appearance which is temporary at best.
Those of us who are wise and have learned the art and value of truly loving can no longer be satisfied with outer appearances. We may enjoy the view but our choice of an intimate love partner is based upon those unique and delicious loving human qualities that bring us inner peace and joy.
Love is like coffee. If you love coffee, you might understand the analogy. If you don’t love coffee, think about a food or drink you do love. Watch this SimpleTruths Movie and Savor the Flavor of Love.
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Warmly,
Dr. Erica
April 1st, 2011 at 12:12 am
Hi Dr. Erica,
I really enjoyed the movie and the post.
I loved this “The richest person is not the one who has the most, but the one who needs the least”
That point is becoming clearer and clearer to me everyday in many ways.
Thanks for sharing… it was very thought provoking.
-Kevin
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April 3rd, 2011 at 12:42 am
Kevin,
So true. I continue to learn the value of just giving, without expectation of getting something back. So many people enter relationships “needing” something from the partner. The less you need, the freer you are to just let yourself and the other person be who they are.
Erica
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April 1st, 2011 at 4:06 pm
So does this mean love is like pickles?
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April 3rd, 2011 at 12:44 am
Andy,
I guess you could find some analogies to pickles. For example, some people like them and some don’t. Some people only like one type and not the other. If they are opened up and you squeeze too hard, you might get squirted unpleasantly (like if you pressure your partner too much they might explode at your verbally).
Erica
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April 2nd, 2011 at 2:34 pm
Erica, I love being loved. The same goes for my wife. Ten years ago we got married. One day I was in the shower and noticed that something was written on the outside of the Frosted Shower Door. When I got out of the shower I look at it. My wife had written in soap “I love you”. I grabbed the bar of soap and wrote under it “I love you too,and your are my best friend” It has been 10 years now and it is still on the door. It says a lot about our love for each other and demonstrates that we are pretty lousy house cleaners. Thanks for this reminder that “love is the substance of Life”.
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April 3rd, 2011 at 12:45 am
Nelson,
You are both so fortunate to have found that love with each other. Savor it and share it. What could be more precious and valuable and wonderful.
Erica
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April 2nd, 2011 at 8:47 pm
Most of us think of being in a loving relationship as 50/50. It’s not true. A loving, giving, fulfilling relationship is 100/100. I give my all to my beloved and she gives her all to me. It’s why I don’t fuss if she leaves the seat down or a dish in the sink. I get back a hundred fold in knowing she is there for me 100% and I for her the same.
Thanks Dr. Erica for reminding me what’s important.
RICK
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April 3rd, 2011 at 12:38 am
Rick,
You both have the winning attitude for relationships. In an earlier post, I wrote about the 100% rule. So many people want and expect their partner to give 100% or more but they feel that they do not have to do the same – or they wait for the other to do it first. I love your attitude of not sweating the small stuff and remembering that you are there for each other.
Erica
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April 4th, 2011 at 6:16 pm
Hi Erica ~ This is such a wonderful post because it is so true…and a bit earlier in my life, I would not have understood why, yet now I do! I’ve been single since 1997 (divorce) and have run the gambit of dating all types of men, and will admit to having chosen unwisely at times, and yes, many of those times were based on “outside” appearances. Fortunately, this is something I no longer find myself doing, rather looking at the true person “inside” for me to decide if they are a good match for me or not. I appreciate you sharing
Christine
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April 4th, 2011 at 11:25 pm
Hi Christine,
It’s not easy to get past the outer appearances. You don’t have to disregard that but it is so important to not be fooled by appearances and to get to know and apprecitate the real person.
Erica
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April 5th, 2011 at 4:38 pm
Erica,
What a great way to bring home this point! This little clip is full of life lessons. I can say that I have been there, done that in the past. There are times when I notice it appearing again, but I am able to get past it quickly. What I do when I find myself making a snap decision on a person is look for something good in them. This helps me to see them in a better light.
Thanks for sharing this today,
Val
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April 5th, 2011 at 11:11 pm
Val,
You are so right. I have discovered that my snap judgements can be way off, based on someone or something from the past that reminds me of this person. Now I do take the time to delve deeper.
Erica
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April 5th, 2011 at 5:08 pm
Erica
Think for the great post and video. Really enjoyed it.
“Live Simply
Speak Kindly
Care Deeply
Love Generously”
I think That Says it all!!
Have a Great Day
Chester
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April 5th, 2011 at 11:13 pm
Chester,
Life can be so complex, with computer technology, electronic equipment, activities, social life. It feel so good to slow down, enjoy the simple things and to feel the love.
Erica
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April 5th, 2011 at 10:12 pm
Oh Dr. Erica,
Visiting your blog always brings a special warmth to the day. You have a concise way of putting relationship issues into clear perspective.
It seems that the outward appearance comes into play when dating. I have been reminded over and over again that you can’t judge a book by its cover. It has been a hard lesson …
BTW, coffee does taste better in Lenox!
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April 5th, 2011 at 11:15 pm
Darlene,
I happen to agree with you. I love coffee in my favorite mug and I don’t enjoy it as much in those styrofoam cups. That being said, I also feel that way about outward appearance. You don’t have to disregard what is aesthetically appealing to your senses but it is good to also look deeper to the pearls or heart of gold that may be hidden beneath a less atractive outer appearance.
Erica
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April 6th, 2011 at 1:13 pm
Erica, Very nice post and I loved the video. It brought your post right into focus. I have been married for 40 years now and you are so right. We do still try to dress nice and look good for each other, it is what we have inside us that makes us ONE. You know you are one when your thoughts and desires are always about what the other is thinking and what they need in there life today.
Thanks for the article I enjoyed reading it and listening to the video.
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April 6th, 2011 at 7:12 pm
Wow, 40 years and going strong. Seems you have both discovered the essence of love. “You know you are one when your thoughts and desires are always about what the other is thinking and what they need in there life today.” That is worth repeating for those who may not realize that this is true and is possible.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and your love,
Erica
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April 8th, 2011 at 11:29 am
Erica,
Very nice analogy.. I happen to LOVE coffee its aroma, and taste. And like coffee, love and life have special aromas too. Very nice
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April 8th, 2011 at 11:57 pm
Lesly,
I also love coffee. Just heard about a new study tonight that suggests there are 2 genes that affect someone’s tolerance for coffee. Maybe some of us have a special gene that others are lacking.
Erica
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April 9th, 2011 at 4:11 am
One of my favorite essays given to my college English students is titled “Why people fall in love.” However, what it is really all about is defining love. The author suggests that love happens when the person you are with makes you feel good about yourself — and doesn’t want to change you.
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April 9th, 2011 at 8:24 pm
Shari,
Unfortunately it is often much harder to fall in love with someone who makes you feel good about yourself and doesn’t want to change you. What happens is that because they accept you and you feel so comfortable, this allows you the emotional freedom to evaluate the other person and often you can find lots of faults and lots of reasons that you just don’t have that special feeling of love. However, a person who makes you feel good one moment and insecure the next, someone who perhaps tells you they love you and flirts with someone else, that is the person it is so much easier to fall in love with. Why? Because they challenge you and keep you on your toes, keep you trying to figure out how to please them, how to be better for them, how to get them to care for you more. While you are focusing on improving yourself, you are not paying as much attention to that other person’s flaws and what you don’t like about him or her.
Erica
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April 9th, 2011 at 10:59 pm
Erica so true physical beauty only last for so long. It’s the inner qualities that should attract and keep us interested.
Steve
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April 9th, 2011 at 11:10 pm
Steve,
There really are no “shoulds.” We can’t help what we feel. We are often attracted by outward appearance. But we have to not be fooled by that and keep observing the inner qualities to determine if it is worth giving our time and energy and love to this person.
Erica
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April 10th, 2011 at 4:03 am
Dr. Goodstone,
I agree with how the video, and presentation is powerful! I love the simplicity of the whole concept.
I think that love, and sharing, would be all. That by living as one, who serves others. Still, enjoying yourself, along the way. Having choices, is not a focus point. It is what you choose, that counts. Just allowing yourself to love what you do, and pray that it is supporting others. This would be the ultimate, rush.
I accept, an abundance, in love, joy, and happiness. Doing what makes me feel good. Keeping my actions ethical, and non-harmful to others. Sharing and supporting others, to grow personally,with accomplishing their goals. Now, that is happiness.
Dr. Erica Goodstone, you are a truly amazing person, with powerful insight. You present information, with so much compassion. It is moving to read your post!
A true leader, in our business. I looking forward in your next post, continuing favorable material, for all your readers.
Thank you for sharing, and helping your readers, feel your words. Priceless!
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April 10th, 2011 at 5:14 am
Wow William,
What a nice reply. You certainly have a caring and strong personality and should be highly successful in business since you come from a place of love and support.
Warmly,
Erica
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April 10th, 2011 at 5:59 am
Dr. Erica,
Nice post. I agree with the richest person comment. One thing I live by is the 4 things we need in life. To love, to learn, to live, to give. Everything else is irrelevant.
Thanks.
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April 11th, 2011 at 4:05 am
Gary,
I like your list of the 4 things we need in life “To love, to learn, to live, to give.” Thanks for sharing that.
Erica
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April 12th, 2011 at 9:23 pm
Hi Dr Eric
You have always good Posts.
I agree with you the outer is not the important
part it is the inner past that counts in the long run.
I say always you must be best friend before you go to the next step if you cant be best friend how will you be best partners fot life?
Regards
Theuns
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April 23rd, 2011 at 1:43 am
Theuns,
It is true that you need to be best friends. But sometimes, when men and women are such good friends they lose some of the romantic excitement and mystery that is often needed to feel passion. There is a fine balance that needs to be continually re-established.
Erica
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April 13th, 2011 at 1:59 am
What a great object lesson! I have to admit, my coffee “tastes better” in my favourite coffee cup.
I guess I have a lesson to learn!
Thanks for sharing, Dr. Erica.
Willena Flewelling
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April 13th, 2011 at 2:02 am
Willena,
Don’t believe everything you read. I also love my coffee best in my personal EzineArticles mug that they sent me when I became a platinum author. But imagine being up north somewhere in very cold blizzard type weather and you finally get inside and are given a cup of hot coffee in a styrofoam cup. That coffee will probably taste delicious at the moment. So it is still the coffee. If we can have that same tasty coffee in a more appealing outer cup, why not?
Erica
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April 13th, 2011 at 7:14 am
I do love coffee Erica, and I know exactly what you mean.
It’s amazing how deep love can grow. I am finding myself particular in my marriage finding more and more rooms in my heart. It’s as if the heart can infinitely expand to contain.
But I must say that not only in intimate relationship.
Sigal Zoldan
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April 18th, 2011 at 1:53 am
Sigal,
I agree. The more you love, the more your heart seems to expand and you can love even more. We can grow to understand, accept, forgive and love so much more than we believe we can.
Erica
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April 22nd, 2011 at 5:46 am
Great post, Dr. Erica! I love Simple Truths! I couldn’t agree with you more about the need to appreciate love in all shapes and sizes. If people just want to accept the popular images, all it’s going to do is limit their happiness, and it’s far better to find someone you love, not someone who some fashion magazine thinks is attractive.
That being said, something that I’ve noticed for a while is the fact that women and gay men are the people who tend to dominate the fashion world. For the most part, us straight men are a lot more open to beauty than popular society would give us credit. Marilyn Monroe would be considered a plus-sized model today, so that says everything about how far we’ve gone.
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April 23rd, 2011 at 1:32 am
Steve,
It also depends how in touch a man is with his sensuality. The sense of touch is powerful. So a woman may not look gorgeous according to some standard but sensually he may connect with her and then she will look a lot better to him. As they say, beauty is really in the eye of the beholder.
Erica
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April 27th, 2011 at 11:34 pm
Dr Erica, Quality choice of post. Very creative way to get an important point across to viewers. I found myself deeply touched over the power of the video.
In life I have been each of the cups described and I have cherished men and women resembling each of the cups described. Perhaps the most difficult relationship for me to lovingly accept is the most important, me as the plain toss-able Styrofoam cup. It is true and unconditional love of oneself when one can become that cup and still feel total love and acceptance from within. That is the love which we all require.
Love, Peace,and Power-
Terrific Tonya Heathco
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April 28th, 2011 at 10:11 pm
Tonya,
The way I see it, you are not a styrofoam cup. You are a precious china cup or whatever is precious and unique about you. We are all so unique. None of us is just this plain, disposable object. Think about some of your closest relationships. Is there anyone who can replaced any of those people? Each person offers something unique, even if there are parts and aspects we don’t like.
Erica
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April 29th, 2011 at 6:03 am
“The richest person is not the one who has the most, but the one who needs the least.”
WOW! That is so powerful! I am so thrilled to add that to my collection of fav quotes!
and…
“The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.” I love the truth in this quote! I can totally resonate with it since it’s how I see and identify with life and how I view what happiness truly means.
Erica, thanks for sharing this short yet powerful video clip. I find it completely worth sharing.
Looking forward to learning from you the next time I stop by!
-Jaclyn Castro
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April 29th, 2011 at 1:43 pm
Jaclyn, Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to savor the quotes.
Erica
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May 9th, 2011 at 8:54 am
Hi Erica,
an interesting article.
Isn’t is amazing that especially when we are young we seem to think we need certain appearances to attract a partner.
I used to attract the wrong kind, so I just dressed to not attract, even cut my hair short.
Now I believe that when I am ready I would like have someone being attracted to me for my inner qualities and vica versa.
Thanks for the great post.
Yorinda
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May 9th, 2011 at 4:29 pm
Interesting. At one point when I was single, I made a drastic change and cut my hair real short. Attraction is strange. When we least expect it and even when we are not looking our best, someone can meet us and the sparks can be there. Just keep believing in your self and let your inner qualities shine. Erica
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