Are you a worker, a manager or a leader in your relationships?Recently, I had the privilege some videos of John Maxwell, author of over 50 books, including The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, The Power of Attitude, and The Power of Influence, explain with his all his charisma and enthusiasm the difference between leadership and [...]
We have all committed relationship sins, perhaps without even realizing. In fact, it may have seemed so natural that we never even thought twice about it. Are you guilty of committing any relationship sins, ever? Have your sins caused others to suffer irreparable emotional damage? Have you endured intense emotional upset because someone is blaming you? Do [...]
Separation … Divorce … Lawyers … Legal Battles … Financial Stress … Infidelilty … Love Gone Wrong To Divorce or Separate: The Experts Weigh In My blog post today was inspired by this recent article from the Huffington Post with a few quotes by my colleague and friend, Dr. Adam Sheck. The article was spawned by the news [...]
In my previous post, I introduced the Noble Eightfold Matrix, a powerfully noble and righteous way to live your life. Buddhism has some beautiful, yet quite simple, truths that we can all benefit from. This post describes the Four Noble Truths. Once we truly understand these principles, we can truly live in the moment, each moment. We [...]
Is YOUR Erotic Pot Bubbling, Simmering or Lukewarm? In a recent professional list serve discussion, one of my colleagues, Julian Slowinski, PsyD, shared with us his remedy, solution and recipe for nurturing desire and greater intimacy in relationships. He suggests that couples can remain “erotically (and otherwise) connected by applying the 4 T’s of Time, [...]
Now that I’ve got your attention, let me start by saying that most of us can’t really judge who or what is “normal.” Normal indicates that the behavior fits within the norm of what the majority of people do. But what if the majority of “normal” people are not “healthy” and what if “healthy” people [...]
Just love yourself. Many of us, perhaps most of us, do not show as much kindness, consideration, attention and love for our own self as we do for other people, for our pets, and even for objects. We often deny our true feelings in the effort to please someone else or to take care of something. And then we hold on to resentments, sometimes indefinitely.
When we think about love, we often do not think about boundaries. In fact, we usually think the oppostie. We imagine two lovers almost merging into the ethers, so interconnected and intertwined that separation is unnecessary. The need for boundaries is summed up so beautifully by the famous Lebanese poet in the early 20th century, Kahlil Gibran,
But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the
heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of
love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Love brings up anything unlike itself for the purpose of release and healing. Therefore, even in the most “safe” and “loving” relationship, our “intimate” partner may trigger in us emotions, attitudes, insecurities, fears and downright unattractive personal qualities that we have been suppressing and hiding, even from our own self.
