In my previous post, I introduced the Noble Eightfold Matrix, a powerfully noble and righteous way to live your life. Buddhism has some beautiful, yet quite simple, truths that we can all benefit from. This post describes the Four Noble Truths. Once we truly understand these principles, we can truly live in the moment, each moment. We [...]
Is YOUR Erotic Pot Bubbling, Simmering or Lukewarm? In a recent professional list serve discussion, one of my colleagues, Julian Slowinski, PsyD, shared with us his remedy, solution and recipe for nurturing desire and greater intimacy in relationships. He suggests that couples can remain “erotically (and otherwise) connected by applying the 4 T’s of Time, [...]
Do you have integrity? Do you only promise what you KNOW you can deliver and then surprise the recipient by over delivering again and again? This is quality that leads to enduring success in life – in business, in family, in intimate relationships, in friendships and in any purpose or activity with which you become [...]
You meet someone who sparks your interest and causes your heart to flutter. You begin a new job with a sense of excitement and dreams of grandeur. You enroll in a new program to begin studying your chosen academic or technical career. You just discovered that you or your partner is pregnant. You start a [...]
Just love yourself. Many of us, perhaps most of us, do not show as much kindness, consideration, attention and love for our own self as we do for other people, for our pets, and even for objects. We often deny our true feelings in the effort to please someone else or to take care of something. And then we hold on to resentments, sometimes indefinitely.
When we think about love, we often do not think about boundaries. In fact, we usually think the oppostie. We imagine two lovers almost merging into the ethers, so interconnected and intertwined that separation is unnecessary. The need for boundaries is summed up so beautifully by the famous Lebanese poet in the early 20th century, Kahlil Gibran,
But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the
heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of
love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
