Untying The Knot

Many marriages start with high hopes, passion and dreams of a fulfilling life together. But so many people are unprepared emotionally and financially for the struggles, frustrations and disappointments that inevitably follow when the honeymoon period ends.

Some couples more easily weather the storms and manage to sustain a loving relationship for the long haul. Others just stick it out and suffer together. And more than 50% of married couples eventually give up the fight and choose to move on.

This infographic reveals some of the Divorce Trends, the most likely times and reasons for that fateful decision to end the marriage. http://www.bestcounselingdegrees.net/divorce/.

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6 thoughts on “Untying The Knot

  1. Great inforgraphic!

    First of all, let me be the first to admit, that I had no idea that other than that crucial initial three year window and of course the (so called) and often referenced “seven year itch’, that were so many other potential rough patches!

    So it’s obvious that part of the secret to having a stable long lasting marriage is being attentive to each others growing needs throughout your entire relationship.

    As best you can. And obviously as people grow and evolve, our basic needs change as well.

    Your infographic really points out several eye opening stats.

    Including how divorce can potentially negatively affect kids and their lives as well.

    Thank you Dr. Erica for sharing such an eye opening article!

    • Mark,

      Divorce can be so devastating for a child, especially if each parent tries to turn the child against the other parent. Or even if one parent is crying and hurting and depressed, the child get confused and may be called upon to behave like the parent to comfort the parent. And some newly separated or divorced parents bring their sexual partners into the family and if they break up, the child has lost another father or mother figure. But sometimes, parents staying together who feel lots of hostility, can also have a negative effect upon the children.

      Warmly,
      Dr. Erica

  2. Divorce can be devastating for everyone involved, I must say it wasn’t any fun. I did everything one person can do to avoid it. But it takes two.

    • Lydia,
      At some point we have to accept that we are not in control and we certainly cannot control another person. All we can do is reflect upon our own thoughts and actions and attitudes and communicate as in as open and authentic as we can. And sometimes we have to let go.

      Warmly,

      Dr. Erica

  3. Hi Dr. Erica,

    It’s amazing how common it is to untie the knot.

    When I was a kid, I knew very few kids whose parents were divorced. Now, I know hardly anybody who hasn’t been divorced at least once. And, as your infographic shows, people are getting divorced even earlier into their marriages.

    I think one of the most important issues you raise is that of letting arguments and fights take place in the home and in front of children. That raises the stakes in being “right” I think. When you make your arguing more private, particularly in a clinical setting, you take some of the emotional charge out of it.

    Really interesting ideas here. Touches on many issues.

    -Donna

    • Donna,

      It is true. Nowadays people so much more easily and quickly split up marriages. Often it is the best decision. But it should not be taken lightly. Often the partner looks like the problem when the real problem is your own immaturity or unrealistic expectations or your need to keep giving without receiving what you need. That is why even just a few counseling sessions can make a difference in your understanding and clarity about what is best for your own well being and your future.

      Warmly,

      Dr. Erica

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